Nancy - posted on 04/11/2014 ( 2 moms have responded )
My boyfriend and I have been together since 2008...6 years total. In 2013 I got pregnant with my first baby boy. We are young he is 23 and I am 19. I know it is wrong we should be living alone. We live with my dad under his roof. My dad started asking him for rent but since 2011 since he moved in, he has only paid him a couple of times, that I can honestly say was about 3-4 times total. The rent isnt even much, just $300. Anyways, he's had problems keeping a job. He worked at a photography studio for about 6 months until he quit because they were going to fire him anyways where they paid him $8.25. Then immediately afterwards he gained a job at Netflix where they paid him $13.50 the hour. He has an associates degree in graphic design, and he also has a TON of debt that he has to pay back from his schooling, so that money was helping him pay his bills and also give us somewhat of a good life. He doesn't like the fact that my dad asks him for rent because in the past my dad told him that as long as he covers my expenses, that it was fine for him to live with us. But somewhere in the middle my dad changed his mind. Anyways, my boyfriend is the type of person who loves spending hours uselessly wasting them away on the computer PLAYING VIDEOGAMES. He would go online when I was pregnant at night and he wouldn't come to bed until at 5 in the morning. I thought this would chance after I had the baby..but surprise surprise! It didnt! now he doesnt sleep until 9 in the morning! And he doesnt wake up until 2 in the afternoon and consequently this has been affecting my sleep schedule and my 3 month olds. He recently got laid off on his job at netflix a month ago, and has been job searching ever since. The thing is he wants a job in his career field, graphic design. I have been trying to convince him to just take up any job in the meantime but he doesnt listen. I mean he has a kid now and me to take care of! His father deposits money into his account every now and then, and hes been using that to pay food and his school debt. I dont work I stay home taking care of my baby as I am breastfeeding him strictly and I do not want him with a babtsitter but occasionally I do sell things online to make a little bit of money. Sometimes when his budget gets tight where it wont be enough to pay his debt for the month, he refuses to spend any money on me or the baby.
Hes really sweet to me and would get me anything i wanted when he was working and i was pregnant. But Im so confused now, What should I do he's driving me nuts!! I want to leave him!!!!!! I dont even want to sleep with him anymore I back away when he tries getting us to do 'things.' When he says hes on the computer at night applying, sometimes I walk in and hes looking at youtube videos and then playing stupid games.