Karyn - posted on 01/12/2013 ( 4 moms have responded )
I need advice, I have two children by the same man, when I found out I was pregnant with my first born I was already 3 months along, I had no signs or symptoms of knowing I was pregnant, my tell was i was starving, well when i told the father of my child he automatically forced abortion on me, and when i fought him on abortion he said adoption he wanted nothing to do with the baby, well during the pregnancy he came around and wanted to be involved in my sons life, but then turned around and said he wanted nothing to do with me or the baby, when my son was born, he signed the birth certificate, but has not paid child support and its now going on 3 yrs, we had a file with FRO but was told by our FSW ( Family Support Worker ) to cancel our file since he had no money to pay for his son, that was the BIGGEST mistake to cancel our file, we can get it back its gonna cost us 50 bucks each and I know he will NOT pay 50 bucks to get it up and running again, cause he does not want to pay child support. In Sept of 2011 I recieved no income for a month due to an issue with the gov ( that got fixed ) and when I had asked him to help me out so our son could have food and diapers he told me NO, his sister offered to help not with much but with some and he told her no dont worry about it..I later got pregnant with my second, when I had told him about the pregnancy he again pushed abortion when i refused aborting, he said well adoption is the only answer i dont want this baby, i dont even want to be known as this childs father, im not signing the birth certificate etc.. Now that he has a gf and my baby boy is almost one, he's trying to get into his life and I dont want him apart of either of my boys life, I have a bf i have been seeing for 9 months now he came into my youngest sons life when he was 3 1/2 months old and has been more of a father figure to him, my youngest lookls at his real dad as a stranger and does cry, and he gets mad cause the baby is crying...As well as he barely ever sees his oldest son,he can go months without seeing him then all of a sudden want to be there and that lasts for a month or so...im tired of it and want to go for full custody, but he has told me he will NOT sign over his rights to the oldest one and a judge cant make him!! Do I have enough evidence to have a judge tell him to rign over his rights? I think its best if hes not in my boys life period, he doesnt want to step up to the plate, he refuses to do anything, and now that he has a gf he wants to be apart of there life just so he can show her what a great dad he is ( which he isnt ), what should i do? im lost and confused! Any suggestions would be great thanks!