Danielle - posted on 04/08/2012 ( 16 moms have responded )
Ok i left this man for beating on me and hitting my kids when he found out i left him he took off 5 hours away I ended up marrying my long time best friend we bought a home and gave the kids the first stability they have had. when I got divorced from my ex I had to file unlocatable he found out in 2008 we divorced in 2009 he showed up on my door I told him the kids didnt know him and i was not going to hand them to him for a weekend vist BUT I WOULD go to mcdonalds or the park and stay as long as hed like in a PUBLIC place and he could get to know them and see them he said if i wasnt letting him take them alone he was leaving and he left ( 2 hours afterward an incident happened where he chased me and the kids in the car while i was trying to get to a birthday party for them i went to cops they made him leave me alone) I didnt hear from this man until 2012 ( right after my almost 6 yr old was bumped by a car walking with his older siblings 2 blocks home from school) he showed up to their school and informed my kids that their "daddy" was not infact their dad he was gave them a dollar and icecream snapped some pics of smiling kids eating icecream. had me served THAT day with enforcement of visitation ( he had tried to do an emergency hearing without me there and take custody of them immediatly and the judge refused) so we go up there and i had no lawyer so i couldnt speak directly to the judge and he did so they could long story short he got visitation to kids that do NOT know him but he can not leave the county ... here is the kicker .... hes $21,000.00 behind in child support ......... how the HELL did the judge come to this conclusion? I feel like im in the twilight zone here, my family is being ripped apart my older kids are terrified of him, so am I ... he told my kids all kinds of lies ... told them i cheated on him and kidnapped them..... my kids who have never made an outcry of abuse are saying their teachers are abusing them? WTF??? ALL THREE TEACHERS??? my autistic son is out of control they can not teach him he was doing so well they were going to main stream his last class ... now hes completely back in special education. the court oders say no red dye minimal sugar and no caffine ... he gave them it anyway ( even gave my 10 yr old on concerta for add COFFEE every morning! im not KIDDING) he said when i pay his bills i can make the rules... BUDDY IVE BEEN FOOTING YOUR$ BILL FOR 5YEARS ANNNNND ITS COURT ORDERED!!!! the upside is the judge ordered more child support instead of lowering it ..... and ordered a parent facilitatior/therapist for us and the kids .... after a talk she said she does not think its in the kids best interest to see him WHY COULDNT THE JUDGE SEE THIS BEFORE THE DAMAGE!!!!!!!!!!!!! so now everyone has to talk to her and we have to wait to june until a final hearing in the mean time my kids are having to go! my husband is torn apart he feels like hes losing HIS kids he didnt come in as a step dad he came in as dad... and he has been supporting them since before we were even technically together he gave me money for school clothes and BOUGHT and shipped school supplies and backpacks from New YOrk ( where he kived at the time) as i said bought a house sent money for food and gas to drive them where they needed to go from DAY 1 while this man did nothing ... he never gave me a penny! and they only money i got they drug out of him ... hes had 15 jobs in 5 years 2 of them in colorado where he skipped the state to avoid CS .... now I get a text from ex saying he wants the name of the girl that hit deacon and her insurance info..... yeah big secret why he came back around .... ANY ADVICE? WORDS OF WISDOM ? BEST WISHES? anything would help right now to know im not alone ... anyone have something simular to this?