T - posted on 05/11/2015 ( 3 moms have responded )
Hi everyone. I will try to keep this short. I have two children by my ex. 14yo girl and 7yo boy. My daughter has him all figured out. He's a compulsive liar and only comes around at his own convenience. Last Friday night, my 7yo son called and asked for him to come over and play a little game of hockey out in the driveway. He said "sure I can...I will be over shortly". My son set it all up....and sat on the ground at the end of the driveway and waited. And waited. For an hour. He never came. When I called to ask where he was...he refused to answer the phone. I asked my son if he was ok and were his feeling hurt..... he replied "It's ok...I knew he wouldn't come anyway". My initial reaction was to go and slap him right upside the head but of course what would that help. We haven't heard from him since. My son loves his father and I know that he will ask if he can call him again soon. I don't know if I should let him....because I honestly cannot watch his little heart be broken like that again. It's not the first time. I want to protect them and not let him in their lives at all if he is going to do stuff like that. I just don't know if that will hurt them more.....I have tried talking to him to tell him how much it affects them and he will admit that he's wrong but yet still does it. Do I let him call? I don't want to bad mouth their father to them but he sure does make it hard.