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I have an 11 year old step-daughter who takes every suggestion I make and tells me that I'm either yelling (I rarely raise my voice to her, but am quiet and firm) at her or arguing with her whenever I try to make helpful suggestions to help her with school or making friends. She's not socially outgoing and can sometimes be very rude to her peers. She struggles in school and also hates reading and it's like pulling teeth to get her to do it. I suggested today that if she can finish her book (that only has 60 pages left) by Friday, I would take her out for a treat. She immediately told me that was impossible for her to do, and that she would instead read 20 pages. I kindly, quietly but firmly told her it had to be the rest of the book-- she did NOT have to agree to the deal, but that would also mean no treat on Friday. She got very angry and told me I was arguing with her and that I always start arguments with her everyday. (Apparently, offering to take her to her favorite froyo place as a reward is starting an argument.) What on earth do I DO WITH THIS CHILD?????