Dealing with child support & alimony

Susan - posted on 03/03/2015 ( 2 moms have responded )

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My former husband mailed the support check but deducted $100 from the amount to pay for his part of the co-pay for our minor daughter's 5 sessions of physical therapy. He states that since I did not pay for any of the counseling "I" forced him to go to with her right after the divorce was final, that he should not have to pay for physical therapy. I just paid my co-pay at each of the sessions and had them bill him for his portion. Apparently, this seems to be his way of still not paying for his portion. If I try to fight him over this, and say that he is not abiding by the court order for support, he will turn it around and say that I am not abiding by the court order of our daughter spending every other weekend with him. She is 15, and they have mutually agreed that a.) since he lives 1 mile away and b.) since they spend every Tuesday with each other, that she does not want to stay overnight with him. We have been separated since 2012 and she has stayed with him one night and was so miserable, he brought her home the next day. Is this really worth my time to fight him if I don't need the money?

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Susan - posted on 03/03/2015

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Thanks, Ledia, for your reply. During counseling, our daughter and her dad agreed to no overnights, for a multitude of different reasons, but they did agree to it, and the counselor has that on record. We have a court order because our state will not allow a divorce without one in place when it comes to time sharing, but it was verbally and mutually agreed upon that there will be no overnights, again, for a number of reasons. This should not be an issue, but because of the caliber of people my former husband now surrounds himself with, he would use any means necessary to force my hand. I will not allow either of my children to be a pawn in his games.
As far as college is concerned, my oldest daughter received over $18k in scholarships and came out of college with very little student loan debt. (The divorce happened when she was in her sophomore year of college.) She knew that she would be on her own in paying for college as her dad refused to help her financially. My youngest is on the same track, will receive a multitude of scholarships (yes, I am certain of this,) and also recognizes that she will have to work her way through school. Also, being a single mom with very low income, she is entitled to a lot of grants. I have done my research on college and continue to watch the trends of where the financial market of further your education is going. I have no worries that being able to pay for college will not be a concern.

Ledia - posted on 03/03/2015

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If neither of you are abiding by the court order it is kind of pointless to have one in the first place. Either let it go and forget about the money he owes you, or take him back to court to establish an order that you can both actually abide by.

If you take him to court over the $100, he will probably counter with the missed visits. Honestly, $100 isn't much, and I wouldn't normally bother, BUT this child is 15 years old, and college tuition bills are right around the corner. Unless you want to bear the full burden of her college education, you might want to make sure you have something to stand on in court if he decides to flake out on college expenses.

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