Dealing with depression

Michelle - posted on 01/28/2009 ( 62 moms have responded )

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I am dealing with depression since i had my son but i have hiden it from everyone because I am ashamed. I only break down and cry once everyone is sleeping and the lights are off. I am breast feeding and don't want to stop just so i can go on medication. I feel so alone but have to hold it all together because i am a full time mother. is there anyone out there with suggestions?

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Cindy - posted on 01/28/2009

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I went through the same thing. I started feeling better when I started to exercise. I would got to the local family gym every morning to work out. Their was a nursery to but my son in. It was great!!! I got time for my self, relieved some stress, made new friends, and the best part is I lost 30 pounds. It is worth a try. Also look for a local moms club in the area. I have made some really good friends from the moms club.

Angel - posted on 01/28/2009

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You can't hide it. Talk to your doctor, there are probably ways of dealiing with depression without taking medication. Also there are probably medications you can take and continue to breastfeed. Depression can get very serious. There is something called postpartum psychosis, which is obviously the worst case senerio but it can get really bad. You need to do some reseach on postpartum depression and talk your doctor about it.

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Ana Maria - posted on 01/31/2009

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BTW, I breastfed and took medications. I wanted to breastfeed my son longer but after his 3 months he did notn want it any longer.. too boring for him, the bottle was much more fun

Ana Maria - posted on 01/31/2009

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I did go thru some periods of depression because of the pressure at work when I was pregnant, and then the look of my body and all the changes. Please talk to your doctor. Postpartum depression is serious, your son needs you healthy

Valerie - posted on 01/31/2009

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There is medication that you can go on while breastfeeding. It is not something to be ashamed of, there are tons of women who go through the same thing. You should talk to someone about it, you might be surprised as to how much it actually helps. You need to stay strong for your little guy, look at him and be thankful for what you have, it will help you realize not to sweat the small stuff and may help you to get through it. Again, it is nothing to be ashamed of.

Anna - posted on 01/31/2009

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Coming from a mom who has suffered from PPD, I would strongly suggest talking to your doctor. I was very lucky to find a support group. I started to exercise (walking) and it helped a lot. My daughter was the best baby and I love her to so much, but I felt the same way. It is nothing to be ashamed of. My husband had a hard time understanding at first, but started to learn more about PPD and it helped him realize what I was going through since it was so hard for me to explain to him. Slowly, I became more comfortable talking about it with friends. There is light at the end of the tunnel, but you have to get help and it will get better. You will get through it! But talking to your doctor is a great place to start.

Jennifer - posted on 01/31/2009

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Please talk to someone.  You can take  medicine while you are breastfeeding.  Don't let that stop you. 

Rebbekka - posted on 01/31/2009

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find a good babysitter, and enjoy a night out, that helps a lot.... also taking fish oil, it's a natural antidepressent. talk to your doctor too, they can suggest a lot of treatments.

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Michelle,



I SO feel your story.  I felt the same way.  I was embarrassed to talk about it as well but once I started talking, I couldn't find a single reason to be ashamed.  I spoke with my doctor, friends, family, anyone who would listen.  My son is 15 months old and I STILL struggle with it.  But one moment at a time is the way I handle my days.  And when all else fails, just breathe.  Every single mom who has posted before me is right.  There is nothing to be ashamed of, what you are going through is normal, don't let it go too far without getting help (not necessarily medication) and it WILL get better.  It comes in waves for me now.  At first I thought it was "baby blues" but when it went on months after birth I knew something wasn't right.  Listen to that little voice inside you and you know what the right thing to do is.  Once you've done it, taken that first step, the rest is much, much easier.  If you ever need to talk, message me ok?  I'd be happy to talk to you.  Take care and remember, happy Mom, happy baby.

User - posted on 01/31/2009

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There are natural forms of antidepressants, one is called St John's Wort (Hypericum), you can get this from a health fd store or a chemist and it has been proven to be more effective than Prozac.



It is important to talk to someone about how you feel. I have also suffered from depression for most of my life and I have found that talking about it definitely helps. I have also discovered that exercising, just simply going for a walk each day helps.



There is a lot of information on the internet that you can access about coping with depression.



Good luck.

Brenda - posted on 01/31/2009

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You should not hide it.  There are medications which are safe for you to take while you are breast feeding or...you might just need an adjustment of your hormones.  This is cald post-partum depression.  It's real and nothing to be ashamed of.  I am a nurse. I see it often in the practice I work in.  As well, my two daughters have dealt with it .  I even think I did but no one ever told me to do what you are being told.  Seek the help....for your son's sake.

Paula - posted on 01/30/2009

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It took me a year to go see my doctor about it, and it doesn't get better with time. I suggest with starting with your primary care physician. That's what I did, and if you don't want to get on medication yet, you doctor can give a referral for a therapist at least until you can get on medication, if it's mild with the therapist it might be enough, but I know the meds helped a lot, and I was only on them for 6 months and then therapy for almost another year. So just start with your doctor. That way noone else needs to know until your doctor helps with some solution. Good luck and stay healthy

Lael - posted on 01/30/2009

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I should also add that since I stopped breastfeeding I have noticed a remarkable improvement in my mood.  Seriously.  It was a hard choice to make, but I know I did the right thing.  It's like that old saying, "If Momma ain't happy; Ain't nobody happy."  Take care of you, because only then can you take care of your family.



 



All my best,



Lael

Jennifer - posted on 01/30/2009

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Do you think it is hormonal or might there be other issues too? (Such as giving up your friends at work, boredom, fatigue, not enough sleep) The transition is TOUGH to becoming a stay at home mom, really tough. This is a tough time of year too, especially if it is cold where you live. If you are having trouble with the transition, have hope! You will adjust, and warmer days are ahead. Physical exercise is huge too. It is just as effective as medicine for improving your mood. See if you can find a way to work that in. Perhaps you could plan a fun weekend to have something to hope for. Sometimes, to anticipate something fun can lift your spirits. Last, crying can be therapeutic. Like you, I wait for a safe time/place before letting it out, but you have to let it out and I'm glad you do. You probably feel alone but you are NOT alone. Many of us have gone through the same thing. As of now, 49 other people who don't even know you have responded because they care enough to help! We care! If the suggestions of the other moms don't help much, and the gloom does not lift, then you should probably see your doctor. I'm guessing you won't need that though, because if you can hold yourself together during the day, you are doing pretty well!

Lisa - posted on 01/30/2009

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well first off, hiding it is actually making it worse.... i had a touch of it in the very beginning, once i opened up to my husband, it felt so much better. He helped i every way he could and the best part ws that he let me REST... a little sleep goes a long way... it soon went away after catching up on sleep and pacing myself. PPD taught me a lot! Mainly that I CANT DO EVERYTHIG!!! Do one thing at a  time and do not hesitate to ask for help... once u get ur life back in order and feel better about everything, then u can move on.... but for now u are only adding to the "overwhelming" feeling by not opening up.

Lael - posted on 01/30/2009

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Michelle, honey you're not alone.  I'm going through the same thing, except I have no control over when I break down.  My advice to you is this....get help!  Create a support system for yourself.  Having people to talk to...even when you pay them to listen, really helps.  Talk to your doctor/pediatrician about what medications are safe to use while breast feeding.  I was taking prozac while I was breastfeeding, and it helped a lot.  Another thing is that the fact that you are breastfeeding can actually be contributing to your depression.  As long as you are breastfeeding your Estrogen levels are being suppressed, which is why you won't have a period for the duration of your breastfeeding, and it's also why you could be feeling depressed.  Estrogen increases norepinephrine activity in the brain which are responsible for improving the mood and cognition.  Just something to think about.  I know the importance of breastfeeding,but in my opinion it's more important to have a happy, healthy and mentally sound mother raising her children.  Do what you need to do for you, because it will only benefit those around you. 



 



Best wishes.



Lael



 

Shiralee - posted on 01/30/2009

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You must tell someone.Honestly you may have post natal depression and believe me you can cope with it alone.Talk to a health visitor or a doctor if you don't want to tell your family.Please seek help.

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Someone told me just yesterday that the Bible says don't worry about tomorrow bc today has enough worries of its own! That is so true! I just keep thinking this infant stage is not very long and if I can make it one day at a time.

I feel the same way! (depressed and hiding it) However, focusing on the Word is very helpful to me. It has made today better! No worries, my friend, you will soon feel better! God bless you and I will keep you in my prayers.

Deanna - posted on 01/30/2009

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FIRST OF ALL, DON'T BE ASHAMED.  THIS IS A VERY COMMON CONDITION.  KEEPING IT IN MAY ONLY MAKE IT WORSE.  TALKING WITH OTHERS WHO HAVE GONE THRU THIS MAY HELP.  BREAST FEEDING IS A WONDERFUL THING BUT YOUR MENTAL HEALTH IS VERY IMPORTANT AND IF YOU NEED TO GIVE UP THE BREAST FEEDING AND TAKE THE MEDICATION, SO BE IT.  IT DOESN'T MAKE YOU A BAD MOTHER BECAUSE YOU AREN'T BREAST FEEDING.  RESEARCHERS ARE SO SPLIT ON WHETHER BREAST MILK IS REALLY THAT MUCH BETTER FOR THE BABY.  SO I GUESS MY ADVICE TO YOU IS TO TAKE CARE OF YOU SO YOU CAN BETTER TAKE CARE OF YOUR BEAUTIFUL SON.  YOU'RE GOING TO BE OK AND BY GOING THROUGH THIS EXPERIENCE YOU MAY BE ABLE TO HELP OTHERS IN THE FUTURE.  HANG IN THERE.

Jayme - posted on 01/30/2009

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I had really bad depression with my son as well after breast feeding I did go on meds. just so I could enjoy myself and my baby again, It is well worth it and helped me be a better mom, Go to your doc. as there is support groups for breastfeeding mothers with depression, they have great coping tricks untill you can go on meds. IT WORKS!

been there, not fun, BUT, overall that little boy is worth it all.

Jayme

Stacey-Marie - posted on 01/30/2009

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The longer you leave it the worse it gets and you will no longer be able to hide it.



What is more important? - your mental health or breastfeeding a bit longer - what has the most consequences to it?

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I have a history of depression and had post partum with my second child. I do fine when Im pregnant and like you didn't want to stop breastfeeding. I did stop because it was a choice I had to make to stop nursing and be happy or keep going. I later found out that I could have continued nursing on the meds. There are no studies of anti-depressants causing problems in infants. Doctor's say that it is better to have a happy, healthy mom on medication than not to be on meds. Talk to your doctor. Depression is a serious thing that shouldn't be ignored. I know from experience, life is too short to be unhappy and you will feel so much better and be a better mom to your son. I hope this helped. I am currently taking Zoloft and I know you can take it while still nursing. Good Luck. Alicia

Hayley - posted on 01/29/2009

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Michelle, i really feel for you. Please, look at your child and realise you have done and are doing a wonderful job. The fact that you are depressed is in no way a bad thing. Just about all mothers go through it. A new baby totally changes your life and it doesnt matter whether it's your first or fourth. You have the joy that you created this little bundle of love but the pressures and tiredness and the feelings that we cant get things done the way we use to and everything around us is falling to pieces is normal. Nobody is superwoman. We all need support. You have all of us parents on this forum to help you through but for the sake of your own sanity and for your child too, you do need to talk to your doctor. I have been on many different anti depression drugs to help me through the depression at various stages of my life and that includes after the birth of my son. There are drugs that are safe for your baby as far as breast feeding goes and the other thing to do is take some time for yourself. If you can talk to a maternal child health nurse or ring the hospital that you had your child at and speak to the midwives. Everything is confidential and they will help you out. Dont feel alone. Dont tell yourself you have to hold it all together. You need to nuture yourself first. Then you can be all you want to be for your child. You must come first though. Your baby and family will love you no matter what. Depression is nothing to be ashamed of and let me also point out that once your dear ones know, they will feel so silly for not realising how much you need them and they will naturally do all they can. Be strong, but be honest to yourself and to others. You will get through it. But you will get through it quicker if you let everyone know you are having a tough time so they can support you.

Chris - posted on 01/29/2009

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Hiding it will only make it worse.  A friend of mine suffered greatly with depression after having her second son and only after seeking help did things start getting better.  I understand that breast feeding is very important to you and your son but I think it will benefit yourself and you son more if you concentrated on getting better.  It's definitely nothing to be ashamed of so please don't beat yourself up about it and seek help.

Emily - posted on 01/29/2009

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I hope you will consider going and talking to a professional counselor. There is absolutely NO SHAME in the way you are feeling or what you are experiencing.  I've been there and can say that it is no way to live. Take care of yourself, you deserve it!!!!!

Megan - posted on 01/29/2009

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Michelle,

I am glad that you are reaching out to someone, other moms on this sight. You are very bright to be able to see that you need help. I, too, tried to hide my depression. I wasn't very good at it, but I didn't want to go on meds either. An RN friend of mine suggested I take additional B vitamins. Often our moods are a side effect of defeciencies in the nutrients our bodies need. If you would like to talk more about this with me you can e-mail me at megan_richert@yahoo.com.

Alyson - posted on 01/28/2009

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Hey Michelle,



I too feel for you and totally understand how you a feeling. I sufferend depression before i ever got pregnant. I couldnt find a medication that worked for me or that i wasnt having adverse reactions for so the dr recomended lithium based medication (which of course freaked me right out). so i went cold turkey off all meds and have never gone back onto them. After each pregnacy i have had severe post partum depression and just couldnt face the meds again.



If you have a doctor that you trust, you should speak to them immeadiately because you certainly can cope without medication, although be open to it if you need it, (you wouldnt tell an diabetic not to take medication). the most important thing is to talk to someone and create an amazing support network, take some soul time out for just you and dont be ashamed or embarrassed. this is such a common occurence and i have discovered that there is less power in it if you dont isolate yourself. Its hard work but totally worth it.



 Good Luck!!!



 

Heather - posted on 01/28/2009

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I know where you are coming from. After I had my son I went through servere anxiety and depression. I couldn't seem to wrap my head around the magnatude of raising this beautiful little boy. I was so overwhelmed with caring for him, taking care of the house hold and the thought of going back to work. My biggest fear of all was that if I opened up to someone that they would think I was nuts and take my son away. I was wrong. The scariest day of my life, but yet the best day was when I called up my mom and said that I needed help. She didn't look at me as if I was nuts, she understood and listened. I was so distrot by that time that all I wanted to do was give up. I figured my son would be better off without me because I could not deal. My mom understood, she said that as mothers we all get overwhelmed and sometimes we need a little help. Whether it be medication or just talking to someone. If you were diabetic and needed insulin would you hesitate or feel ashamed. Taking medications for depression is the same. You are the most important person in your childs life and you owe it to them to get through this. You can and you are not alone. The feelings will pass, but you have to allow yourself to get better by asking for help. You are the only one who can do this, and I know it can be hard. Good luck.

Julie - posted on 01/28/2009

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oh honey, i feel for you. Its more common than you would prob think but we are all too worried that it shows weakness in us or means we cant cope and so we just dont share enough.



I was diagnosed with depression after my second child. It took me sooo long to go get help but in the end it was the realisation that my first born was suffering too. I finally started to get it on track and aside from seeing a counsellor, i finally found a medication that worked for me (i was no longer breastfeeding) then i found out i was expecting again, argh.  I thought gr8, have to stop the medication that is finally helping me but with the help of midwives i discovered the anti-deps i was on were totally safe whilst pregnant and breastfeeding. I had another beautiful little boy and breastfeed him safely for the first 6 months. Afterwards i opened up spoke to friends and discovered i was not the only one who had experienced this, i wished i had confided in them sooner.



You should not be ashamed or embarrased, talking to other mums who can realite to your feelings of helplessness, the overwhelming fatigue and pure lack of motivation will help. I also found it  VERY helpful to see a female counsellor. I could open up to her, tell her anything and everything and feel that she would not ever judge me.

Jodi - posted on 01/28/2009

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There are medications you can take while breastfeeding and you shouldn't feel bad about the depression. I felt awful after both my babies. Just know you're not alone, and talk to your doctor.

Shelley - posted on 01/28/2009

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My first suggestion is to tell someone. Remember you are not alone. You may be very suprised how just someone to talk to can make things seem a little easier. I too have been there and still am. I am on medication (although I am not breastfeeding) I am sure there must be something that is safe to take during breastfeeding. Take care of yourself, and don't be afraid to have someone else take care of you for awhile!!

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I was reading some of the other posts and just wanted to point out some other important steps that can help you feel better.



Exercise-join the YMCA or a gym that has child care. This gives you a little "me" time which is so important in recovering from PPD.



If you can't find a support group, try Meetup.com. There are many mom's groups that you can find in your local area. I joined one in my city and they have tons of playgroups, outings for you and your child, and a Mom's Night Out once a month. I've met many new friends and am so thankful that I have an outlet for socialization for me and my son.



And I wanted to comment on a suggestion from one of the other posts. Please beware of certain herbal remedies. Some herbs may be passed on to breastmilk and be harmful to your son, while others can interfere with certain medications (if you choose the medication route). If you hear about a certain herb or herbal tea please ask your doctor and/or pharmacist before taking it. Just because it's natural, doesn't mean it's better for you. After all hemlock is natural, and it's poisonous.



Just a few suggesions. Feel free to contact me if you want to talk. My email is rapptk@gmail.com. Believe me I understand. My PPD was very severe and I made it thru. There is hope. I'll keep you in my prayers.

Nicole - posted on 01/28/2009

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I totally understand. I would cry for no reason and was so embarrassed by it. With my first kid it was completely different. I was the happiest I had ever been and I think that is why I felt so bad about being depressed with the second one. I ended up giving up breast feeding since it was getting to be so bad and finally told my doctor who put me on medication for a while. Just know that you are not alone and that things will get better. Hang in there.

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Please don't feel like you have to hide your depression. Please talk to your doctor about it immediately. Also, open up to your spouse or partner. If your partner doesn't seem to be understanding maybe taking him along to your doctor's visit will help. That way your doctor can explain that it is something you cannot help or just snap out of. You shouldn't be alone in this. It only makes it worse. It is not your fault and you have nothing to be ashamed of. Your body is going thru so many hormonal and chemical changes, along with a dramatic shift in your lifestyle.



I suffered thru PPD and severe anxiety attacks. After only about a week of being on meds I noticed a dramatic difference in how I felt. My hopelessness and anxiety attacks were gone. Please weigh the option of medication seriously. Is it better for your son to be breastfed, but have a mom that is so depressed? Or is it more important that your son have an emotionally stable mom even if he needs to go on formula? You may be able to hide your depression at the moment, and it may get better on its own. But there's also the possibility that it could get worse and sometimes it can just sneak up on you before you have any ability to reason left.



Like I said before, I got on medication and stopped breastfeeding. My son, now 2 1/2 was formula fed and has always been in the 90 percentile for height and weight. Also, he has never had an ear infection or needed tubes in his ears. He's crawled, walked, and talked early as well. So I wouldn't place so much emphasis on breastfeeding. But I understand that it can be very important to some people, and if that is the case, there are meds that are not passed on to the mother's breast milk. You will need to talk to your doctor about this. I would also talk to a pharmacist about it, too along with doing some internet research. And if you absolutely do not want to take meds, try joining a support group or seek a counselor that has experience in PPD counseling.



I hope this helps and that you understand that you are not alone. Take care.

Shauna - posted on 01/28/2009

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you are doing well u said you are dealing with depression not suffering with it .I have lived with depression for about 18 year .I have got three beautifull daughters age 10 ,5 and 4 it is very hard people tell you you should be happy but its not what u want to hear i would surgest get your self to the doctors and go on the medication , if you feel that strong about breast feding how about joining some kind of mother and toddler group and meet other mothers in the same situation as you sometimes it realy does help to talk

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you can ABSOLUTELY go on meds w/o giving up breastfeeding! Make an appt with your Dr right now! Get happy! It's only hormones... so don't worry! Saying a prayer for you NOW! The sooner you get to the Dr.'s the sooner you can start enjoying being a mom!

Ashley - posted on 01/28/2009

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Hey Michelle!



Dont be ashamed. It happens to the best of us. Only you are probably better at hiding it then I was. I tried to hide it but i found that my tears were uncontrollable. So I know that you are breast feeding (so was I for a month) but i was having so much trouble with the breast feeding because my son wouldnt take at all so I switched him to formula. Then I started getting more sleep which helped me out a bit. Then I found that actually getting myself into a routine was helping as well. What you are feeling might not even be depression hun, it might just be stress,, is this your first child? I dont know how you feel about taking medication but i refuse to take anti depressants so here are some of the things that i did and i am doing ok now.



1. Getting more sleep



2. Get a babysitter for 1 full night so you can sleep the whole night



3. Go to a health store and buy chasteberry tea (it is a herbal remedy that will balance your hormones)



4. Try a nice hot bubble bath with a good book.



5. Work out. (I am the laziest person but i found a really cool belly dancing work out that is really fun to do and it helps you get your mind off of things. You may even want to try baby and me yoga.)



6. Love yourself. (I had such a hard time with that extra little baby pouch that came with my bundle of joy. But then I realized that it isn't going to leave anytime soon and if an extra little jelly pouch is what i have to deal with in order to have something sooo sweet then bring on the jelly!)



7. Talk to people. Even if you dont want to talk about your depression, being a full time stay at home mom can really put a damper on your social life. So you may be a little lonely. Pick up the phone and call someone and just chit chat.



8. Write down all the good things that happened since the baby has arrived.



9. Keep a journal. I know it sounds corny but even writing down a few sentences each day about your feelings can help you out alot.



10. Get a hobby. I have found myself doing ALOT of scrapbooking, I have painted animals all over the baby's bedroom walls (and a portrait of tinkerbell for my niece). And I have even started a new project of making 100 rosaries for the babys christianing.



So I hope this helps.. Good luck

Alma - posted on 01/28/2009

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Don't be ashemed of this. This is normal in many women, you have to see the doctor because you really need help to deal with this because this can turn badly and you have to be healthy to take care of your son. Remember that if you are ok so your son. Dont delay, go and see your doctor.

Suzanne - posted on 01/28/2009

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YOU NEED TO GO AND SEE YOUR DOCTOR EXPLAIN HOW U R FEELING AND THE BATTLE IS ALMOST OVER WITH.

THEY WILL BE ABLE TO ADVICE YOU WHAT U CAN TAKE WHILE YOUR BREASTFEEDING TO GET YOU THROUGH THIS SPELL.

IVE BEEN THROUGH THIS AND BELIEVE ME DON'T SUFFER IN SILENCE SPEAK TO SOMEONE AND YOULL FEEL A BIT BETTER THAN CRYING ALONE

PLAES WRITE BACK AND LET ME KNOW HOW YOU GET ON SUE

Trina - posted on 01/28/2009

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Hi michele! First of all, some post partum depression is normal.  However, if it keeps you from functioning in a healthy way then it needs to be addressed.  When I had my first baby in 1989 I entreed into a period of severe depression.  I tried to hide it for awhile and then it just got the best of me.  I personally opted not to take antidepressants because I feel that the affects of taking them are not worth the help they give.  To make a long story short, some time later I was diagnased with a thyroid disorder called hypothyroidism/ Hashimotos thyroiditis.  Pregnancy often triggers the disorder bacuse it is caused by hormone inbalance.  One of the symptoms is depression.  I would strongly recommend that you have your thyroid checked to see if you possibly could benefit from taking thyroid medication.  i am a new person after getting mine under control.   You can google hypothyroidism and research it for yourself.  It is one of the most misdiagnosed health problems in women because its syptoms resemble those of other problems.  Lots of women are on medication for depression, rhuematoid arthritis,  etc.....when the real problem is their thyroid.  You will be in my prayers as you struggle through this. Please talk to your Dr. about doing blood work on your thyroid.  I look forward to hearing what you find out. 

Marilyn - posted on 01/28/2009

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go get help from the doctors they should know what to give u if anything because ur breathfeeding pray a lot that to helps

Kimberly - posted on 01/28/2009

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Michelle, PLEASE STOP FEELING ASHAMED! You are NOT ALONE! I suffered from depression after I had my first child. Truthfully, I started suffering with depression while I was pregnant although I was overjoyed to be pregnant. At my 6-week check-up my doctor started me on a medication called Sarafem. I was also breastfeeding, and it had no negative effects on my son or my milk supply. I took it for 8 weeks and I'm glad I did! If you'd like to talk more, feel free to email me directly at kvsimmons@yahoo.com.

Brenda - posted on 01/28/2009

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I currently take Prozac and it is generally safe during breastfeeding.  One fifth does pass to the baby however, but it is thought this amount does not harm the infant.  Zoloft, however is the safest medication for breastfeeding because it does not pass through breastmilk. 



Talking to someone is your best bet.  If you can get in touch with a LPC (Liscenced Professional Counselor) through some facility in your area, talking with  them can really help you sort out your issues right now, but it really sounds like you may suffer from a heavy case of Post Pardum (sp) depression.  For this, you can talk to your OB just as easily, and he/she can prescribe something for you. 



Never feel ashamed!  Everyone gets stuck in their lives at one part or another.  The period after baby is born is extremely tough because of hormones, and believe me hormones can do a number on you.  My prescription for Prozac is actually to treat Pre Menstral Dysphoric Disorder, which means I suffer extreme clinical depression for the week before my period arrives, and then it just goes away.  It is completely hormone driven and not something that I can do anything about.  My OB decided to keep me on Prozac during my pregnancy and after the baby arrives because of the fact that hormones are crazy during the entire process, and at times I feel better than others even on my medication.  There is no reason for you to suffer needlessly.  Depression is very real, and many times an individual cannot go it alone.  It is not your fault, and you have a right to not be depressed.  Please, see either an LPC or your OB as son as you can.  Either can help you, but be aware you may need medication because of PPD, which is not something you can handle without in severe cases.

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i am on lexapro for the same thing honey. tell your doc you want to try lexapro, it works great for me and i breast fed alll 3 of my kids on it and was pregnant with 2 kids while on it, its completly safe.

Donna - posted on 01/28/2009

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Don't hide it go to your doctor asap it is normal but the sooner you get help the better for you. So please go to the doctors

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Hey, i just thought of something else. My biggest concern when I got on meds was that I'd feel zombied. I don't know how else to desscribe it. What I learned from my doctor though ws that if you do feel zombied then you aren't on the right meds. Everyone reacts differently to different meds. I finally got on Zoloft and finally felt like I had myself back. It doesn't at all dictate my moods but it does stop the depression that was doing a pretty good job of dictating my moods before. It's not a euphoria type drug thing. It won't get you on a high regardless of what is wrong. It should restore the chemicals in your brain to a normal functioning level. If it doesn't make you feel like "You" again then you need to try something else. Again, if you want ot talk, I'm here. There are a lot of women on here who've been in your shoes, Hun, and we are all willing to walk along side you through this!

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Don't be ashamed. Being depressed does not mean you have a character flaw or that you can't handle life. It only means that your body/brain are not making enough of the neurotransmitters that regulate mood right now. If you had diabetes because your body wasn't producing enough insulin you wouldn't be ashamed- you would go to your doctor and ask for help, you would let your family friends know what was going on so they could support you. Depression is no different. Also, keep in mind that a lot of your feelings of shame and fear are just the depression talking, not your true self, so get out there and ask for help. There are so many medications (many of witch you can use while breast feeding, just ask your doctor) and talk-type therapies available that there is no need for you to suffer in silence.

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Hi Michelle, I skimmed through some of the posts and I agree with them, you can not hide, EVER, you have just as much of a right to cry and break down just as much as anyone else. The first time I realized I was depressed it took me 4yrs after I had my first son (now 10) to finally go to my Dr. and ask what was wrong with me, thankfully I was only on medication for about a yr and a half.



I am now on meds again because of depression, in '07 we lost our daughter (born 3mths preemie, died at 100days old), then we became pregnant again not too long after, and now we have a 7 1/2 mth old. With both boys and mine and my husbands relationship not doing well and dealing with just about everything you can imagine, I am so thankful that I have been taking my meds, trust me they don't rule your life (if you are on the right ones) I still have days that SUCK, but at least I am able to get on with everyday tasks (unlike before the meds)



My best advice to you is just this reminder....Mom's need to be healthy to keep their babies, husbands, other children, etc. healthy....if mum's happy then everyone else is happy!



Even just talking to others on here is a big help, I hope that you have or in the proccess of recieving other help, don't be afraid girl your not alone!



Your in my thoughts and prayers

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I got PPD after my second child and didn't even recognize it for the longest time. There are several Meds that are safe to take while breast feeding. Zoloft is one of them. Talk to your doctor. She/He will be able to help you out. Your baby deserves a happy mom and of all the times in your life, this is one where you DESERVE to be happy. Never be ashamed. This isn't something wrong with you anymore than someone who has a cold has something wrong with them. It is natural and completely normal. Never feel ashamed. If you need anything: info, support, or just someone to talk to you, can email me. GoddessJocelyn@msn.com. Good luck to you and your new lil bundle of joy.



 



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Don't be ashamed! You definitely need to talk to someone though, and get help. Even having a friend to talk to will help get some of the feelings out. Medication can be helpful but it is only part of the big picture when it comes to dealing with depression, and you can't live in misery both for your sake and the sake of your family. I think the biggest tool to combating depression is you and your drive to get better.



I grew up with a mother with extreme problems with depression, and she still suffers to this day. It was very difficult as a child because I didn't know what was going on with her when she was crying or sleeping all the time. She never made the attempt to get better, and now that I am grown and have a child of my own, I know I never want to end up like her. When I started experiencing problems with depression years ago, I sought help right away and used my will power and the support of people who loved me to make the change.



The change starts with you. Just remember that you are not alone, there are people who love you and need you and will stick by you no matter what. Don't be ashamed to ask for help, it doesn't make you a weaker person, on the contrary it takes more courage to take the leap to towards getting better than it does to hide it. Take it from a person who has been there, and also who has seen it happen to many people I love. You can do it!

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