Karabo - posted on 05/21/2013 ( no moms have responded yet )
I was a single mother to a little boy for about 6 years and recently (about 6 months) moved in with my fiance of two years (together for 4). We are currently expecting our own little boy in about 3 weeks. Through-out our courtship we talked a lot about what it would mean for us to get married and how that would affect him - raising my son who is not his biological son. We came to agreements and basically I am just raising my son in a shared home with him. Nothing much has changed.
However, when we moved in together he made a decision (without consulting me) to take in his cousin's son aged 6.His cousin is the same age as myself, is totally irresponsible and her son was being looked after by her mom. He feels close to his nephew and so thought it would be a great idea to have two boys in the house. Unfortunately although this decision was not mine, I am stuck with the daily responsibility of raising his nephew. He "helps out" when Ive made a scene about doing everything alone but even then, most of the responsibility is on me. This would not really have been a problem but his nephew is extremely difficult, selfish,lying all the time and totally disrespectful to me. Lately he has even started blaming my son for his bad behavior and then lies to my fiance about it.
I have brought up these issues with my fiance but he has not really taken me seriously and just shuts down whenever I bring it up. I am completely fed up now and DO NOT want that child in my house or near my baby when he is born. I feel terrible because I hate this little boy and I've tried not to but its just too much now.
Help. What do I do?