Rachel - posted on 11/08/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )
I am a divorced mom of a 10 year old daughter, and we moved in with my mother after my divorce a few year ago. Because we live my mother, she feels she is an equal parent to me. She wants to be at every parent teacher conference, every school event, have a say in decisions about my daughter, have an equal say in discipline. She has gone so far and crossed boundaries by contacting my daughter's teachers and telling everyone how she is raising her granddaughter (my daughter). I am not an absent mother, and while i appreciate my mother's help I don't like how she goes around pretending that she is raising my child. My mother gets hurt if my daughter and I have alone time that doesn’t include her. It has been causing a lot of issues between my mother and myself, and my daughter is now starting to not like her grandma as much as she used to as my mom doesn’t respect my daughter having friends and doing things without her. My mother gets hurt if my daughter does anything that doesn't include her and if she isn't fully included she pouts like a child. I am not surprised by this cause my mother has always been a very insecure and needy person. My daughter no longer likes being around her grandma, and hates it that Grandma is the one that picks her up from school instead of me. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard my daughter say “I want you, not grandma”. Then my mom gets hurt and jealous that my daughter prefers me over her. This living situation has ruined the relationship between my mother and daughter. I can’t afford to move right now (I was a stay at home mom and never worked during my marriage and am just finishing up my college degree) and truthfully didn’t want to move in with my mother after my divorce, but I had no other option. I will move once I can, and when I approached the subject of moving to my mother she started crying saying I can’t take my daughter away from her.Help!!!