Dealing with negative comments about becoming a SAHM

Patricia - posted on 05/28/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )

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I am expecting my second baby and have decided to become a SAHM. The plan is that my husband will continue to work full-time and I will only work once or twice a week when I can. I am a supply teacher so I set my availability. I probably won't be going into work every week since I already know I prefer staying at home with my daughter now and when I have the baby I'll want to leave the house even less.

Anyways my question is how did you deal with people putting down your decision to stay at home? So far everyone except my husband and my grandmother have only had negative things to say about my choice. Everyone keeps telling me that I can't give up my career and that I need to think of the income I would be losing just to stay home.

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Patricia - posted on 05/28/2012

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I don't like the idea of daycare simply because I don't want other people raising my kids. However even if I did I would work exclusively to pay for daycare because it would cost my entire salary. So you are right Kaitlin cost was an issue and I will mention that next time someone decides to bug me about it. Thanks to both of you for your encouraging comments.

Kaitlin - posted on 05/28/2012

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If you were to put your children in day care, could you afford it? Speak to them with pure numbers- putting two kids in daycare full time is far more expensive for most SAHMs than a one income family. That's how our decision was made.

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Alison - posted on 05/28/2012

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I would suggest you answer "my husband and I feel good about our decision, but thank you for your concern".

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Patricia and Kaitlyn, you got that right...If you pay for daycare expenses...Why in the heck work? If you are going to use all your money on daycare and waste your time for nothing...Staying home is better...as least you can learn more about your children and become closer. Besides daycares isn't all that good. Alot of children comes home sick with some kind of bug or whatever and some kids get malested and some don't even come home.

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My opinion, I'd tell those people that it is your choice and you think it is the best thing for you and your family. Besides you can have a career at home and still be a stay at home mom.
If someone don't agree with you about your decisions, they need to respect your decision wether they like it or not. If they cannot say something nice, then they need not to say anything. If they want to be a friend, then they need to act like one. If it isn't a friend, tell them it's none of their business and you do want you want. It is noone's decision , only yours. If you are happy about it.. That's all that matters. If noone likes the way I am and my decision about things, if they can't say something with respect,...then they can go about their own business.

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