Kkrjrpleggett - posted on 07/10/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )
Personally I have always kept my opinion on parenting to myself unless asked. I felt I couldn't say anything before I had my son. Now, I do not say things to parents of older children because I have no basis of experience. On here, I dole out my opinion or advice when "asked" through a post, but otherwise I keep my mouth shut.
With that said, how do I tactfully tell another mom to back off on her advice giving and off handed comments on my parenting? She is my friend, and has two children, both older than my son. She has something to say about my parenting EVERY time we talk. Examples: I like to watch my son sleep (still at 13 months old). Her statement, "Oh, you'll get over that and you'll get sick of him soon enough." I held my son a Lot as a baby, believing that you can Not hold a baby too much (about 2 months old at the time). Her statement "You hold him too much and you'll regret it when he's bigger. He won't let you put him down for 2 seconds." Well now he is very independent and does Not want/need to be held unless he is tired or hurt. The most recent was this weekend, I was at a cookout at her place, her very skinny 6 year old picked up my 22lb son and was carrying him (her arms wrapped around him just under his arms, so his arms where sort of pointing up, his toes dangling about an inch off the ground) and started carrying him down the Cement sidewalk! I took my son from her and told her to not pick him up again. He is too big and she is too small to carry him. I was not mean about it, but I was authoritative, I do not want to see either of them get hurt. My friend "Oh don't be so over protective, even if they fell it wouldn't hurt him that much." She continued to go on all night about how "Over protective" I am, and that "my son will never learn how to do anything if I don't let him try." Which has NOTHING to do with her daughter carrying down a sidewalk! I do not believe I am "over" protective, but I will stop him from getting hurt before it happens if I can. I about lost it, but I bit my tongue, I do not want to hurt our friendship, it is relatively new (we met while I was pregnant). and now it's still bothering me and I want to say something but I'm not sure how to go about it without ticking her off. Our husband's work together and are good friends and I do not want to jeopardize that at all.
Sorry this is so long, but How do you ladies deal with friends or even strangers who dole out there parenting "wisdom"?