Death of adult child

A - posted on 02/12/2016 ( 3 moms have responded )

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yeah, well if the birthdate of one's child won't go earlier than 1986, this is a kinda useless sub-community, no?

Any atheists/agnostics out there who are struggling with the loss of an only child? Mine, 1980-2008, cheery, not self-destructive, my soulmate. Me: no partner, mom at 19, successful career, so bereft that all -- what's left of family and friends -- have moved away from me. So alone without her.

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Raye - posted on 02/17/2016

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A Bruce, we welcome all current and previous mothers, grandmothers, stepmothers, even a few fathers have been on here. Don't let the limits of the forum software scare you off. We have people from all religions (and none). If you get replies that don't fit your situation, them just pass them up and move on to the ones you do find helpful.

I'm so sorry for your loss. If you are continuing to struggle, then you may want to seek a counselor, a support group, or speak with someone in person to help you through it. I won't say "help you get over it" because I'm not sure you could get over it. But you can get through it. You just need to be strong. She would not want you to stop living your life... then two lives would be lost.

A - posted on 02/16/2016

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Hi Sarah E., Thanks for the response.

Amelia died in 2008 in her sleep. She'd been unwell on and off for a decade and received two kidney transplants (1997, 2007). I found her body cause I'd bought a house with 2 apartments to give her some independence. She lived upstairs and her bedside alarm didn't stop ringing. But I knew she was home.

What a terrible loss for you. I understand the sadness for sure, although our situations are different I hope you have lots of supportive folks around you, that's what seems to be most important in horrible grief situations. I've had a hard time finding online resources as I'm not spiritual and many forums are quite Christian. Which is fine for them but doesn't work for me.

I don't think this forum is the place for me either (i'm not a mom any more), but I did want to thank you for reaching out.

Sarah - posted on 02/12/2016

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So sorry, how did you lose your daughter? It's been a few years, I lost newborn twins in 2009 but I have older kids now and I cannot fathom what it would be like to lose one of them.

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