Debating Abortion

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I am 26 years old and just found out I am pregnant. I have a boyfriend of 6 months who is the same age. We both work full time, but don't make much money. I still live at home with my mom and adult brother who has severe lung damage that prevents him from working outside the house. My boyfriend and I have talked a lot about what to do, and he definitely does not think it would be smart to have the baby, because we don't live together and money is so tight. I can't help but feel like we are so much better off than so many people who have healthy babies and are wonderful parents that those aren't valid excuses. I think I want this baby, but I know that people around me will think it's a bad idea because nobody thought it would happen like this for me. I have scheduled an abortion for next week, but I literally can't sleep because of it. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

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Livia - posted on 03/08/2014

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I forgot to Mention that. I am also Pro-Choice. I have been thinking about this a lot for the last 12 hours. Putting myself in your shoes for a minute ok. I am just going to lay it out there for you both ways so be prepared.26 years old, healthy, leaning towards wanting the baby, make decent/ok money-if you wait until you can actually afford kids you will never afford them-You dont have to live with your bf, but you could get a place together or you could apply through your local county for housing for you and the baby and apply for the woman and infant program you can get free formula and healthcare for your baby. (also some free foods like dairy juices and other things) I am just throwing out ideas maybe you don't need these. NO matter what you have to do what is right for YOU! Not anyone else but YOU because you are the one who has to live with the decision for the rest of your life. Feel free to inbox me if you want to talk. Liv

~♥Little Miss - posted on 03/08/2014

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I am very pro-choice, not to be confused with pro-abortion. But please do not have an abortion if this is not what you want. You sincerely will never forgive yourself. Truly, best of luck with your decision and PLEASE give an update.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 03/08/2014

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Don't worry about what other people think. This is about you and the baby. If you feel like you don't want this baby and there is no alternative, you know abortion is an option. Don't take it lightly though (which I don't think you are) you will have to live with it for the rest of your life. Do not be pressured into an abortion because you will regret it if it is not something you want to do 100%. He may not be ready for a baby, but if you are then keep it. Understand you may lose your boyfriend, but you will have your baby. Please make this decision with your head and heart, without pressure from anyone. It does not sound like you want the abortion. Keep this child if that is what you want.

Livia - posted on 03/08/2014

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If you want this child then you should keep it. If you wait till you think you can afford a baby you will wait forever, No one ever reall thinks they can afford kids. Yes they are expensive but if you have 2 incomes and you explain it to him and hes on board then I would say go for it. Now if it was me even if my bf wasnt on board I would have the baby. I have a supportive family and actually that happened to me at 18. My family was awesome tho. If you would rather talk abt this in private you can send me an inbox. If not we can still keep talking about this right here,. Keep me posted and good luck!!!!! Oh and you dont have to live together but down the road you could get a place I can get a place together. I will send you some ideas about that tomorrow via email.

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