Deeply Depressed and Smoking a bit

Mahleej - posted on 08/20/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I'm 6 weeks pregnant, didn't know till 3 weeks so i was smoking and drinking once i found out i stopped but the stress is too much so now i dont' inhale the smoke just blow it out... On top of everything i found out my bf was cheating on me. i don't know how to cope up with stress as i find myself crying all the time...
i want to know if all this will affect my baby ...

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As Chet said, the smoking and drinking before week 6 shouldn't be a problem, but it is very important that you stop now.
Even though you are not inhaling the cigarettes, the carcinogens from the smoke and nicotine can still make their way into your body. If you feel the need to smoke, swap traditional cigarettes out for vapor cigarettes, like the ones made by Volcano E-Cigarettes. Until you give birth and are finished breastfeeding (if you decide to go that route) choose the nicotine free vapors.
After that, you can go back to nicotine if you want to, but you can never smoke around your baby, so you might as well give traditional cigarettes up now. If you do choose to continue using traditional cigarettes after your child is born, you should ALWAYS shower and change clothes after you smoke before you pick up your child. If you have longer hair, you'll want to make sure you wash that out as well because the baby can grab it, then put her fingers into her mouth. The carcinogens from the smoke cling to your skin and clothes and even the slightest movement can toss them back into the air where your baby will inhale them--worse than the smoke directly from the cigarette because at least that was filtered. My husband smoked for a few weeks after our son was born, but it was such a hassle showering and changing all the time that he gave it up. Also, if you've smoked inside the house you are going to keep the baby in, get new drapes, carpets, and bedding. If you only smoke outside, a good cleaning should be enough to take care of any left over residue that traveled back in on your clothes and skin, but it won't be enough if you were actually smoking inside.

If you are having trouble coping with your bf's infidelity, speak to your mental health provider. He or she can give you mechanisms to help you cope that are safe for your pregnancy. As far as I know, nothing has ever shown that crying is harmful to the fetus, so if crying helps, go for it. You can cry as much as you like.

Laura - posted on 08/20/2013

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Well, you stopped when you found out. that is pretty early to find out. You are smart and brave to do it all at once, him not sticking with you.... it amazes me how weak the other sex can be.

I am 51 and have a 11 year old boy I had by invitro and an adopted 23 year old daughter with special needs. I thought the world was just fine until 2005 I found my brother dead and when I wasn't completely over it 2009. My mate stole my then 6 year old (fresh out of kindergarten) and my little lost senior grad out of our home. This has been so difficult, to fight for custody and my home.

But not to feel safe as you are starting a life, my heart and prayers go out to you. Your baby has a strong mommy, as far as the ef fect on your baby, even the best of climates and still things happen. god bless u

Chet - posted on 08/20/2013

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This early in the pregnancy the smoking and drinking aren't likely to have had an impact on your baby. The embryo doesn't implant until around week four. Before week four it wasn't even attached to you. After the embryo implants the placenta still has to grow. I believe that the placenta is fully formed around week 12, but will start to transfer stuff from the mother around week 7. However, it is very, very important that you stop smoking. Smoking causes you to grow a smaller, weaker, less efficient placenta. An ultrasound technician can recognize a mother who smokes by the size and health of her placenta. You are early enough in your pregnancy that you can still do this right. First trimester is a very emotional time for lots of moms too, so don't be upset about being upset! Women in truly dire circumstances delivery healthy babies.

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