Defiance

Christina - posted on 02/07/2015 ( 2 moms have responded )

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Hi y'all,
I have a 5 year old that is very defiant. Constantly pushing buttons. I'm a stay home mom of the 5 year old and a 4 year old. My question is... How can I minimize her behavior of being negative and defiant? It's very emotional tiring and also rubbing off on my 4 year old. Any and all suggestions are welcomed.

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Christina - posted on 02/08/2015

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Thanks for your comment. I am on board with being consistent. I have a tool box of different consequences I use and time outs, taking things away, and even (last resort) spanking. I don't want to go to my last result bc by then, I am done.

Jodi - posted on 02/07/2015

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As the adult in the situation, you actually need to stop allowing her to "push buttons". The reasons she continues to do it is because of your reaction. What she needs is very clear consequences to her behaviour - if she says no, have her go to time out, or at this age, you may be able to remove privileges, such as her favourite tv show that day or something. But consistency is everything. If you are getting emotionally exhausted by her behaviour, you are reacting emotionally. You need to sit down and think of some consequences that could work for you and then use them.

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