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I have a one year old son and my ex partner is threatening to take me to court for joint custody , I have a new partner I have been with for almost 2 years and I am expecting again and it's only since he found out I'm expecting he wants joint custody... I really don't feel my ex partner should have any visitation rights at all my reason's are as follows:-
He has not seen my son for 6 month's plus
He takes drug's
He would arrange to visit and then not show up and my son has only ever seen him roughly 5-6 times since his birth
I have a genuine fear that if allowed to take my son he would not return him
We have had no support of him financial or otherwise
My son has health issues and I know that my ex partner wouldn't stick to his strict medication regime.
He spends a lot of time with known drug addicts.
He lives with his Sister who threatened "to kick the baby out of my stomach" as she wasn't happy her brother got me pregnant.
When he has visited it seemed to be more about me and him than my son.
He has a criminal record for violence one assault of which is for assault of a minor.
The list goes on... in the beginning I told him he could see my son as often as he wished thinking he'd want to spend as much time as possible building a relationship with my son that was far from the case... I gave him chance after chance saying that I wanted stability for my son ect ect and he decided to no longer bother as of August last year then when he found out I was pregnant the end of January he decided that he would inform me that he's taking me to court ... The idea of him having my son at all or having any contact with him really scares me ... he's not on the birth certificate (he didn't show up while I was registering his birth) ... I'm not sure what I can do... I'm so scared he'll do something to my son or neglect him in some way.