Depressed

Donay - posted on 12/30/2014 ( 5 moms have responded )

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My boyfriend of 12 years and I have a 8 year old son together. I am nine weeks pregnant and he walked out on us when I found out I was pregnant at 4 weeks. He is with an older divorced woman with four kids and they work togther. I am not having an easy pregnancy with morning sickness and all and not having a permanent job. I am so worried about the future of my children. We bougt a house together and he said he is giving me and the kids until the end of January 2015 to live in the house and I have nowhere to go with my children and obviously I cant look for a place of my own as my contract at work ends the end of January 2015. My sons are my strength right now and I'm just trying really hard to be strong for my unborn baby. It's really difficult having to go through this pregnancy alone. He is telling everyone that it is not his child and that I tried to trick him and he wants me to go for an abortion but I will never do that. I am utterly and totally broken. I just wish all this hurt, worry and despair can go away.

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Donay - posted on 12/30/2014

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Thank you so much ladies. I will definitely make time to see an attorney. I dont know where I'm going to get the strength from but I just have to for my kids.

Amy - posted on 12/30/2014

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I get your upset but you have to focus, the other ladies have you great advice get to an attorney, the longer you wait the more time you're giving him to hide money! You have to be strong for your kids, you don't have to leave the house you bought together, but you need to see an attorney.

Donay - posted on 12/30/2014

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We have been living together for 5 years. And we are in South Africa. I am so worried about everything i wish i can just die and not feel anything anymore. I have nothing and no-one. No money nothing. How am I and my children and the baby that's on the way ever going to survive and get through this.

Michelle - posted on 12/30/2014

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Exactly what Jodi said.
Get yourself a lawyer now and get what is legally yours. If he is wanting to buy your share of the house then you will have some money behind you but I would put up a fight. Your children need you to get everything you are entitled to.

Jodi - posted on 12/30/2014

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You bought the house together. He can't just kick you out. You are also an owner of the house (even if your name is not on the title, you may be able to prove you are part owner). You have been together for 12 years (although I will say that the fact that you are still boyfriend and girlfriend after this length of time should have been a MAJOR red flag). You have every right to some of your joint assets. It is time for you to go and see a lawyer. You need to file for your share of the joint assets and custody/visitation/child support arrangements. If you see a lawyer quickly, you may be able to get an injunction on him kicking you out of the house and you will be able to quickly ensure he is not hiding money, bank accounts, etc. But you need to move quickly. Pick up the phone now and find a good family lawyer.

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