Depression

Lisamarie81m - posted on 04/16/2010 ( 200 moms have responded )

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Ok, so I have asked about this before.



I am wondering how do you know its depression and not just being moody or what not? I am a stay at home mom I have two boys 6 and 4. I have decided to go back to school to become a nurse and I start in May. I have a supportive husband, who has always worked hard so that I can stay at home.



I can described it as like I am able to put on a happy face in public but then the minute I am alone I cry at everything, I have no energy, I just feel sad.



Sometimes I think I am a hypochondriac and I am making it all up. I just don't know what to do

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Kate CP - posted on 04/17/2010

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Two things that are REALLY bugging me:

1) God is great, but will not stop depression.
2) Homeopathic remedies are also great, but will not stop depression.

DO NOT tell some one NOT to take medication. The ONLY person who can give this kind of advice is a licensed therapist. THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH TAKING ANTI-DEPRESSANTS!!!!!

Betty Ann - posted on 06/01/2010

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Hi Lisa, You probably ought to see a Doctor for his advise, but
your symptoms sound a lot like I had before the Dr. found out that
I had Low Blood Sugar, You might try doing a Yeast De-Tox from the Health Food Store and get off of all sugar, caffeen, and White Flour, and if you do that for about 2 weeks you will know if you feel better or not. . . Some times Low Blood Sugar makes you feel just like what you are saying. . . God Bless you and I will pray that you get better soon. . .

Joanne - posted on 05/03/2010

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Hi Lisa

I'm a bit late into this conversation, but here goes...

I really think you should make it a priority to see a specialist (dr or counsellor). I can relate to so many things you have said. After two boys (now 5 and 3), and years of putting on happy faces and not-so-happy faces, and feeling like it was just the way I was to feel bad a lot of the time, I now realise that I am still me, but chemically, I am a happier person on anti-anxiety medication. I didn't want drugs to change the person I was - they haven't. I didn't want to feel like a failure, by admitting things to a dr. Sure it felt awkward at the time, but I'm so glad I opened up. Now with medication, it's like a weight has been lifted (cliche) but is really is. I can take a deep breath and breath out happiness - not feel all tense and in knots and hopeless and frozen by worry and sadness most of the time. I see things in the positive sense now so much more, and notice nice things around me a lot more, and I find my relationships (kids, husband, family, friends, work clients, shopkeeper ...) ALL so much better and fulfilling. It is not perfect, but so much better. I am happy to discuss details with you - names of med, amounts, side-effects etc, if you wish. Although I wish I had done this sooner (I have seen psychologists, counsellors, drs, for years, learnt about cognitive behaviour therapy, and I've ummed and arrghhed about whether I needed to take the next jump to medication - until i realised it wasn't just affecting me. My kids deserved a happier Mum/influence in their lives. I sometimes reflect on how my life could have been so much better had I started meds earlier, but I don't beat myself up over it (as I would have in the past)!.
You've recognised some things bothering you, and I think that is a great start. I felt heaps better after losing weight/ exercising/getting fitter (physically and emotionally). I have started making closer friends through my childs playgroup/school. I just don't have time to do lots of girlfriend things although I'd like to. I think a lot of us are in the same boat there. It doesn't mean we are social lepers. We just have different priorities and raising a family takes a lot of effort often at the expense of other things (including ourselves!).

I think that going back to school will help with the friends thing. I really admire you for aiming to do that (going back to school, and realising the opportunity to makes more friends there too).

I too, think that I have always had the worry-bug (probably genetic) and with tendencies to get depressed when too many stressors built up. And I can relate to the dark thoughts - mostly on a lack of self-esteem level, I often didn't feel good enough, hopeless. Like you I could never do it, but even considering it, I think, is a sign that help is needed somewhere.

That is great that you have a relationship with your husband that allows you to discuss difficult things. Often hard to face issues (sex drive included) I have found cant be ignored or they get worse. Keeping the lines of communications open are ESSENTIAL I believe. (Easier to do when feeling better about yourself).

Lack of sleep totally threw me too with two boys. Even one bad night now changes the way i see the world. I used to be soo tired and then it would be a viscous cycle as the more i worried the worse i slept. Do your thoughts / feelings improve after a good sleep?

Finally I think working on the little things is good, but a professionals input is really important too. You may not find the right answer straight away (if not happy/comfortable with one dr / advice see someone else), but it is worth following through until you are happy!

Good luck!

Sonya - posted on 04/19/2010

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Hi Lisa

I note that you posted this a couple of days ago, I hope that you are feeling a little more positive after the posts you have received. I have two children 2 half years and 6 months I suffer depression after the first and so very aware of the effects it can have.



I hope you have gone to the doctor or considering it. If like me, you'll be feeling terrible one day and the great the next and think that there is nothing that bad after all.



Couple of points for you - make sure that you go to doctor and that it is only depression, had thyroid problem this time, it presents like depression (short course of meds and good as new) - hormone imbalance from having children.



Depression is a chemical breakdown in the brain, therefore your body is not producing the chemical required all the time, and thus anti depressants are needed. So don't worry about taking them, your body can sometimes create it again over time, sometimes not. (think of how many people take meds for heart, blood pressure all their lives)



Another is exercise - I know dirty word, esp. when feeling crap. But a wee walk in the sun can help, gets the blood flowing and the brain recharged.



Sounds like you have a lovely husband - If you can get him to look after the child for 1/2 hour or hour once or twice a week for you the go for walk, swim, bike ride or what ever, if you’re not getting any you time. I know you feel it's a lot to ask but worth it - mine does it for me and I know it works.



Finally keep asking for help, as people only offer when we ask. Take care and hope that this has helps

Patti - posted on 04/17/2010

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Lisa, I can only tell you how I handle it and I didn't go to doctors or take medication. I am a Christian and I finally decided that I couldn't do this on my own and just started to pray about it and ask God for help. I also started reading the Bible to find verses that talked about overcoming. If you are not sure about Christianity I will be glad to explain. I can only tell you that there were plenty of days I didn't want to get out of bed and one day I just said "God I can't live like this please take these sad feelings away" and He did. I am not going to tell you that days after that haven't been sad, but I can tell you that I was able to handle them much better and it didn't last as long.

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Therese - posted on 04/04/2013

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Sounds like Mild Depression to me. You may be feeling a little overwhelmed and no matter how much support you get around you it doesn't mean that your body can handle everything that you are doing. it can also be hormonal.

You are not a hypochondriac. I remember a time when I just had too much stress happening - it was Christmas season and for one month I had special events that I had to service (I am an event planner), large companies with large parties, then I had all these things I had to do at home for my son and my family and on top of this events that I had to attend for my husband. and to top it off, my crew is amazing and I also had to do something for them. I put on this happy face in front of everyone and mind you, I have an amazing team and an awesome husband, but because I was physically tired, my hormones went completely off and I experienced mild depression, basically, I slept all day and I was exhausted emotionally and physically, I was also irritable and I cried for no reason.
My doctor was awesome, he had me take vitamins and minerals to help bring up my immune system, I don't like prescription drugs, so I had to do natural theraphy that included accupuncture and hynotherapy, my sister (nurse) told me I should have just taken medication, it would have cost less time and money. (LOL) - anyway, it took a few months but my hormone went back to noraml (eventually) and I felt better.
See your doctor.

Debra - posted on 08/19/2011

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It sounds like life is getting you down at the moment, with depression you wouldn't be able to put a brave face on it in public unless you want people to thiink your life is perfect. Deppression can slowly creep on you when life gets too much go and see your dr who can go through a checklist with you to see if you are depressed or just feeling down.And give you the advice you need but do not ignore these feelings or they could get worse.

Benita - posted on 06/01/2010

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Lisa,you will have to get to the bottom of your problem.Why do you want to put on a happy face in public when the minute you on your own you just want to cry.In the nursing profession you give all the time and it is difficult if your own life is not sorted.You can get treatment but i would counsel that before you take any medication first get to the root of the problem and work from there.I sincerely hope that things will go better with you and you will enjoy nursing and being a Mom to the boys.

Betty Ann - posted on 05/11/2010

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I agree with you Sylvia, The Lord does make a Big Difference in

my being happy. . . . Also, there was a time when things were very low for me, and I found out that I had Low Blood Sugar, and If I stay on a Veggie & Fruit and a little Chicken and Fish diet, which is very healthy for every one. . . and No Caffeen.

like Coffee. . .and No Coke. . . . I started to feel great after about two weeks.

What a Difference and I sleep better and I am not moody any more. . . So maybe you should talk to your Doctor about testing for Low Blood Sugar. . . But by all means start with reading the Bible and listening to good Gospel music. . .

God Bless you. . . .

Sylvia - posted on 05/11/2010

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I agree it is difficult to go to a doctor these days on issues like that. Be in control of your visit; tell the doctor that you would like to see blood work done to check your nutrition/iron/blood pressure/thyroids/hormone levels. My mom was low energy which made it a domino effect for her & they found out she was super low on vitamin b & had to take vitamin B shots from her physician.
When I went through a time like ~ feeling low I too searched the scriptures & found my time reading God's word was extremely beneficial & christian music as well. I also get out & go for walks & that helps as well which will also help boost the hormones & I wake up with energy after a walk in the evenings; it also helps me to sleep better.
Get a good multi-vitamin as well. : ) May it all work out well for you!

Marlene - posted on 05/10/2010

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I agree with a number of other women on here, you should get a complete blood work up & see if you are having any problems with your thyroid or other hormone levels. Chemical imbalances in the brain are one of the main problems with having depression & if you are experiencing these problems on a regular basis then you should get with your doctor about it.There are other tests that you can take to find out what form of depression you have, as well.
I am someone who has lived with depression for most of my life. Mentrual cycles can make matters worse with the hormonal changes. It can be managed through medication. Another idea, would be for you to keep a daily journsl of what emotional & physical symptoms you are experiencing.
I hope you find out soon what is going on & get positive & proper help!

TAMARA - posted on 05/06/2010

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Talk to your doctor. I had that problem and i went to talk to my doctor and she was helpful.

Betty Ann - posted on 05/05/2010

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Every Day when I wake up, I have to Choose to be Happy. . . and some times I have to decide minute by minute to be Happy. . .
But it is a Choice. . . You can control your happieness. . .

Jean-Marie - posted on 04/28/2010

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Don't feel bad to ask for help. It can def be depression. After my second child i was also crying for everthing and always felt like just staying in bed, if u dont work through it it might catch up with u later on and be worst. ask your doctor for advice. or just take some time out and think or sleep or cry your heart out. just maybe try and sort this out before u go back to school. u will have less time for yourself and maybe fall deeper into the depression. good luck and hope all work out.

Samia - posted on 04/24/2010

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I agree with Adrian Smith. Try to think positive. That u will be able 2 get through this.

Never thing in a negative way. Always tell yourself that ur not alone alot of people feel this but tthink positive and pray. I'm a muslim and read the Quran. And praying helps a lot. And like Adrian said taking naturalherbs and remedies helps. But if u really feel like seeing a doctor after doing this, then go ahead a doctor can help. Everyone has their own way of understanding themselves and what they really should do.

I wish you the best of luck!!

Nicky - posted on 04/24/2010

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I would talk to your doctor.Well thats what I did anyway, but I had been diagnosed with it a few years earlier as well, and it got reaaaly bad after having my daughter. Its totally normal to feel like that though, the no energy is the worst because I felt like a bad mum because of it. But you dont have to feel that way :) just go talk to your doc, and its good you have a supportive hubby to be there for you.

Angie - posted on 04/24/2010

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Go to your Doc

Tell him how u feel

He should do a few tests to make sure blood levels are ok but then you need to get sorted

Going back to school will be great once you have sorted out your problem

At the moment you will find it very hard

Kylie - posted on 04/24/2010

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I think you definately have depression that's how I felt in the beginning and it will only get worse if you leave it and it's a very lonely place to be. Find a good gp and don't be afraid to talk about how you feel also there is a website called beyond blue that can be quite helpful but take it from me life can be better but will only get worse if you don't attend to this it's just like a broken arm or some other medical condition and you wouldn't leave that unattended good luck

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I think you have depression. I have it to. We do cry easily. We don't have energy. Maybe going back to school is an emotional strain to leave your young children. It may be better to wait until they are older. I have tried to go back to school a few times, and just didn't have the mental strength to do so with my kids at home!

Julie - posted on 04/24/2010

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Don't let fear stop you from getting the help you need. I took medication when I really needed it and then after a while I weaned myself off and learned how to deal with my anxiety triggers. The key is to find out what is causing the depression and treat that. And that is something you'll need help with from a professional. I lived with depression for years and years(half my life) because I was afraid of being labeled and because I was able to live with it for so long. The worst was not knowing what was going on. Now I know and that's half the battle.

Christine Angela - posted on 04/24/2010

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At some point in our lives that we will feel like that and I would say it is normal. The best thing to do is to see a doctor for further guidance on how to deal with your situation. Do not worry about it and always look at the brighter side of life. Take one step at a time and everything will follow.

Whenever I feel sad or cannot put a smile on my face in public I usually write the things that will make me happy and make me feel depressed then there will be another column that is like a conclusion on how can I avoid that kind of negative feeling and invite positive vibrations to make my life lighter and easier. After that, one way or another it feels really good. It is more of letting out what is inside you then decide what do you really want that can make you happy then to be the best for your supportive husband and loving kids.

Be strong. God will always there for you.

Nerida - posted on 04/24/2010

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It does sound like you have depression, your symptoms are very similar to when I was depressed (post-natal). Don't be embarrassed and don't be afraid to see a doctor to get some help. Depression is not about being 'sad' for 'no reason' it is a chemical imbalance and 100% legitimate.You say that you are going back to school to become a nurse - what would you say to someone who presented with these symptoms and asked for your opinion?

CRIS - posted on 04/23/2010

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I too went through many years of denying I was depressed because my husband said it was mind or matter and I continued to get worse I put on the happy face, I had/have five children and I was a stay at home mom. Trust me talk to your doctor there is nothing wrong with getting advice and if you need meds it doesn't mean you have done anything wrong or that your family has caused this my doctor said simply put that sometimes the wires in our brain get mixed up and need help for a time the key is for a time. Good luck and God Bless you.

Julie - posted on 04/22/2010

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Lookup signs of depression on google. If you have a majority of the symptoms you might be depressed.Depression is often a symptom of something else. I have anxiety and if I don't keep it under control I get depressed. If you've never experienced this before, you might be going through biological changes that are wreaking havoc on your moods. Try tracking your moods too. If they worsen every couple of weeks, it could be hormonal. It could be stress, reduced sleep, the change in the seasons or anxiety over starting a new career. Don't be afraid to talk to your doctor, that's what they are there for and depression is quite common. It is just not openly talked about. People will easily talk about their heart condition but might never mention their depression even though they might both be equally important. Don't neglect yourself. You can't be there for your family at you best if you aren't there for yourself first.

Lindy - posted on 04/22/2010

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HI LISA



I AM LINDY FRM MALAYSIA. THERE IS NO WANDERING ABOUT DEPRESSION. IT SOMETIMES CAN JUST HAPPEN WITHOUT ANY APPARENT REASONS.



ANALYSE YR DAILY BEHAVIOUR, GET IT DOWN ON PAPER THEN GO THRU IT AT END OF DAY. WHY DO YOU THINK YOU R GOING THRU A DEPRESSION.

ENJOY YR TIME OF BEING ALONE N TAKE IT EASY.

IT IS EASIER SAID THAN DONE BUT LIFE IS ABOUT CHALLENGES N TRIALS.

SET YR SELF TO DO SOMETHING ANYTHING U FANCY.

OCCUPY YR TIME WITH YR KIDS. THEY R A GREAT GIFT FRM GOD.



RGDS

LINDY

Krystal - posted on 04/22/2010

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It does sound like depression sweets. I was the same before i got diagnosed. I could go to work and put a happy face on and get home, not want to see my friends, wouldnt get off the couch, cry at anything, didnt want to ride my horses anymore......



My gf actually said i think youve got depression which i found ridiculous as we had just gotten engaged and life was great. Within a couple weeks on my tablets i was 100% better. Just get checked out at the docs. Its nothin to be ashamed off and the sooner you feel better the better :O)

Veronica - posted on 04/22/2010

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I have lived with this. Whether or not you choose the medicated route is one thing. The important part is that you have someone to talk to that is completely separate from your life. Friends and family always have an opinion, and you always censor yourself- even if you don't know you're doing it. Talk to your doctor (your GP and your OBGYN all have a good list of people) and get an impartial ear.

I chose the medicated route. It took several tries to get it right (anyone who says they only tried one antidepressant or anti anxiety medication is either INCREDIBLY lucky or lying to you), but once I found what worked for me, I became "me" again.



Something that helps a LOT more than most people know is plain old fresh air. You said your kids are 6 and 4, so you can take them with you on a walk, go for a bike ride, or just sit in your back yard for a half hour. It really works wonders.



Good luck, and don't give up. You will be yourself again.



:-)

Gloria - posted on 04/22/2010

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i have being down that road before because i take antidepressent pills , lack of energy , feeling of hoplessness , like am in a shell talk to your doctor because it can take control of your life .

Marnie - posted on 04/22/2010

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Hmm I would say if you are crying, why are you crying? for no reason? or is there a reason that keeps dragging you down. If theres a reason then you need to somehow fix it because antidepressants are just a bandaid and that wont help in the long run. Side effects from depression alone can make you more depressed so you dont want that to be where you turn to first. Sometimes the best thing is a good councellor. I have been to a few of them over my life span that have made a huge impact on my life. Sometimes just getting the overwhelming feelings that are pilling up on your heart and letting them out is all we need:) hope this helps

Charity - posted on 04/21/2010

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I'm not a doctor but it sounds like depression. I was sort of the same way. I went to the doctor and was diagnosed with postpartum and put on meds. I am better now .

Vickie - posted on 04/21/2010

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Go to your doctor soon. Don't put it off because it can deepen. They will put you on anti-depressants and it will take about 3 weeks before they start taking effect. And don't stop taking them because you feel better. Your doctor should moniter you and will slowly take you off of them. I have been down this road and you are NOT alone. Do not be ashamed or shy in talking with your doctor. Good Luck to you! I will be thinking of you.

Cheryl - posted on 04/21/2010

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You don't know until you to talk with your doctor about your symptons. And from what you are saying it sounds like either depression or a change in your hormornes. I cannot be sure and neither can you if you don't seek help. Please don't put this off. I experieced something like it myself and I am so glad I checked it out. I suffered from aniexty attacks and I thought all kinds of things but I thought the doctor would think i was special. OK no more preaching!

Diane - posted on 04/21/2010

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You need to go see ur Doctor. Sounds like "depression" to me...............and i know, i have it..........

Cecilia - posted on 04/21/2010

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all of these suggestions are really good ... primarily, don't think you're being a hypocondriac ... you're not and only you know how you feel ... the suggestions to first check thyroid, vitamin D level, etc. are good .. and if you decide it IS depression, take something!@!! Lexapro really worked for me.

Jaimi - posted on 04/21/2010

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One thing that u might consider is perimenopause, and if it had not been for the fact that I experienced it first hand I would have never in a million years thought of it. In a nut shell it is depression that can set in but it is hormonal in origin, I had an early onset myself and I was more confused than ever. A person hard as nails that would cry at ANYTHING. Take a trip to your ob and let them know what is going on ..a simple bloodwork test should answer ur questions. Meanwhile try to consciously take time out for yourself to do things you enjoy to make urself feel better. Try not to overwhelm yourself...sometimes takin it one hour at a time is a lot easier than one day at a time...hope i was helpful

Charlotte - posted on 04/21/2010

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I think if it lasts for more then a couple of days you should go talk to your Doctor. But it sounds like you have depression to me.

Sarah - posted on 04/21/2010

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Lisa, there's alot of good advice on here. I think going to school will do wonders for you socially & build up your confidence & esteem in yourself. You said you didnt have friends other than your husband. Woman are social creatures. We need each other. I can emphathize with you on that one. I felt so much better when I went back to school cuz I didnt have many close friends in my life either. If you werent going to school, I'd recommend joining a womans group of some sort. Somewhere you can connect with other women. We feel depressed when something is missing or not right in our lives. I think you found the missing link. I'll try to add you to Facebook so we can keep in touch. Good luck with school. Im excited for you!

Candice - posted on 04/21/2010

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Hi....I'm a Clinical Psychologist and a mother who's dealt with Depression....I urge you to go see your Doctor. You and your family will enjoy a better quality of life once the depression is treated.

Jenni+shane - posted on 04/21/2010

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hi u do need go to the doctor but it sounds like u have depression crying at everything,no energy and feeling sad are sign of depression

Michelle - posted on 04/20/2010

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Hello Lisa, I respect the going to the doctors, but they didn't work for me. One of the things I did was to come to grips with who I really was, the good the bad, and the ugly. I told myself I don't like feeling this way, and enough is enough!! A look in the mirror was when i would have conversation to myself, and begin to say " You are a strong person, so today I refuse to be unhappy, sad, depressed, oppressed; Today I will focus on all the good and positive in me and my family; I will live and not die!!" It helped me, hope it helps you. Michelle

Sharil - posted on 04/20/2010

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I went through post-partum depression and it was terrifying...not to say this is what you are going through but felt I should chime in...It sounds to me you are lonely and isolated and worn the hell out from being a SAHM and I am so glad you are going back to school---It will not only boost your confidence, it will give you adults to talk to, feed off of, inspire you..etc...I feel like isolation was a key component of my PPD. Don't kick yourself for feeling this way...just focus on getting around more adults, having a fun night out with friends at least once a week--without kids...and remember--this will pass....Don't feel bad at all!!! I have been in a similar place and I am so much happier now...I make myself have 1 night out with girlfriends, run around the lake as much as i can...exercise is your friend--even if it's just fast-walking..the endorphines will help shake off the depression....Give yourself a hug and exercise more and see more adults!!!! Hang in there girl! good job taking care of your kids!! It can be soooooo isolating, I know!!

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I have been there. Along with the other's advice, I tell you to put on the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness! Purposely think differently about your life, test it out for one day. Fast negative thoughts, if one comes, automatically think one to counteract it. If you believe in God, focus on Him and name your blessings. The atmosphere will change. I should know.

Deborah - posted on 04/20/2010

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I think that maybe you need to figure out why you are so sad. Depression is overwhelming and usually you do not even feel good enough to go out in public. I do not believe you are being a Hypo. I think something is upsetting you and it needs to be resolved. You should probably talk to your Dr. and or maybe counseling would help you. It sounds like you really want to go back to school, but maybe you really are not ready for that big of a change. You definately need to figure out what is upsetting you before you try to jump into Nursing School. It could even be a homonal thing.

Angie - posted on 04/20/2010

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You are depressed.

Most people go through some level of depession in their lives.

Go to your GP and get a refferal to a psycologist. You will feel better as soon as someone tells you what is wrong with you and then you can start sorting yourself out!

If you dont want pills, cognitive thinking therapy usually helps ....also dont forget to look after and nurture yourself!

Jessie - posted on 04/20/2010

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I experienced the same thing years ago and again after the birth of our daughter 6 months ago. Now that I have been through it I know my simptoms right away. Crying all the time, no motivation to do much of anything....even little things, not eating, wanting ot sleep all the time, etc. The first time I went through it it took the help of my mom to realize that it was more than being "moody". I would tell myself that it would pass and it was all in my head, but it did not get better. No one should have to force a happy face. I went to the general doctor and she gave me a prescription for a mild dose of Zoloft once a day, and recommended that I see a therapist. I began the Zoloft and noticed a difference within days. I saw the therapist a few times and she said everything was fine and to check in if anything changed. About a year later my doctor recommended that I try weaning myself off to see if I still needed to take the Zoloft. I did and wthin days I noticed a difference and went back on it. I realize now that I will most likely take 50mg of Zoloft for the rest of my life and I am fine with that. I neer want to go back to the place I was in before. Go see your doctor...its the best advice I can give you. Good luck: )

Teresa - posted on 04/20/2010

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HI ! LISA , I understand how you feel about putting on a happy face when your in public, and when your home taking care of the family .you feel like you can't take it any more ,you do feel like you just wanting to cry and give up because you have no more energy to do more , but you do because of the family . when you are a mom that is how you feel and you do get depressed cause you just want to do the right thing for your family as well as yourself. I work a full time job that i like but it is demanding then i come home and take care of my family .it's very hard when you don't have other people to help you out when you need it and it is up to mom and dad to make it work out . you are not alone on how you feel ,you just need to stay postive and belive that things will work out for everyone . just remember to take care of your self because if you don't it is very hard to take care of others who need you too.

Cheryl - posted on 04/20/2010

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Talk with your doctor about your symptons and don't try to down play it. Depression is very serious so check it out for you and your family.

Karen - posted on 04/20/2010

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I have had depression for many years so I can tell you, after your doctor runs all tests, you sound like you do have depression. No need to feel ashamed. It's just a chemical imbalance--I tell my children,like "diabetes." Please see your doctor at once. And if you are not happy with those results, try to see a counselor or psychiatrist. You will feel much better the sooner you control it instead of it controlling you. Good Luck!

Ashleigh Cockerham - posted on 04/20/2010

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I would think its depression, of course, I'm not a doctor, I've only worked off and on because I like being around 4 everything with my kids, but when that is everything, everyday 4 years, i tend to get depressed. I really think going to school, and socializing more will help you a lot. Good luck, an please know if ur sadness goes to far, or u start having crazy thoughts, ask 4 help. It doesn't mean ur nuts, or a bad person,

Bonnie - posted on 04/20/2010

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Hello, I decided to stay home with my two boys after my 2nd son was born, something I had always wanted to do, but after 6-months I couldn't take it anymore. I had the exact same feelings you described. My days were all the same cooking, cleaning, changing diapers, cleaning, organizing, cleaning, grocery shopping, cleaning, laundry, cleaning! It got to the point that if I had to clean one more dirty dish, I would have pulled my hair out! (My now ex-husband was & still is a slob!) I believe for me it was a combination of things including not having anything stimulating to look forward to each day. Don't get me wrong, I loved spending time with my kids everyday, but I needed something more stimulating. I decided to go back to work part-time & the symptoms as you described above went away almost immediately. When I got off-work each day I would pick-up the boys & take them to the park, so I still got to enjoy spending quality time with them. I believe once you start school your sadness will go away, because you will be doing something stimulating & you will be helping not only yourself & family, but others, as well. I wish you the best of luck with your studies!

Theresa - posted on 04/20/2010

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Hi Lisa



Take a look at this website http://www.depression.org.nz. It discusses sypmtoms of depression where to find help and a free helpline.



I understand how you are feeling as I have been this person too. You will be ok. As an alternative to doctor prescribed medication you could look at seeing a Medical Herbalist or Naturapath. This is the road I took when I was suffering from Post Natal depression with my second baby. Aswell as this I went to counselling which was a tremendous help to understand what was happening with me.



I hope this info helps you. Please always remember YOU ARE NOT ALONE, YOU ARE NOT CRAZY.



Theresa

Benita - posted on 04/20/2010

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you have to find out what brings on the feelings.Depression is real and if you are depressed you will not have the energy to be amongst people.Is there a reason for your low feeling and maybe you are just unhappy about something you are unable to sort out

Susan - posted on 04/20/2010

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It very much sounds as if you are depressed. Talk to your doctor. I was depressed for many years, thinking it was different unresolvable situations that made me sad. I finally went on antidepressants and what a difference! I feel normal now. I first took a medication that shut my emotions down. When I told the doctor that, she said I needed a different antidepressent. It has been such a blessing.

Stephenie - posted on 04/20/2010

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~Big HUGS~ Lisa honey, go talk to your doctor, it can't hurt and you'll feel better about it! I am also a stay-at-home mum...I'm currently studying to rejoin the work force, but 2 kids drives me bonkers and i can cry ALL DAY some days then spit taks at my husband when he walks in the door, kids have a inside knowledge on how to drive mummy to baldness. After the doctor, get your girls around, some pizza and some YUMMY vino and hit it with your girls....best remedy sometimes is a bloody good laugh with some friends...i cry everyday too, at a life left behind....NAH IM KIDDING,lol...ask for help if you need it honey...all my mummy love to you xx

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