Depression!

Alexis - posted on 01/02/2014 ( 4 moms have responded )

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Hi ladies in 20 years old 21 weeks pregnant with my second! But this will be my first child I had a miscarriage the first time :,( well need advice, help, or just someone to talk to I been very stressed outband depressed lately because my fiancé will not touch me, compliment me, really not talk to me, or even have sex with me but before I was pregnant we had sex like everyday he says he doesn't want to hurt the baby but he's heard from the doctor he will not hurt the baby so I don't know what the issue is! I'm more upset that he sneaks around to masturbate to porn or lies to me about working over time or weekend and he goes out but when I ask him he always has a get out answer! Help me please idk what to do anymore and I don't want to hurt my baby by stressing!

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You can just be blunt about how you feel. If he denies stuff that's his problem not yours. You could open up with, "this may sound blunter than I mean it but with my hormones going on this really bugs me". I would use that when I have an issue. Then you're open to just talk. Its up to him to listen.

Alexis - posted on 01/02/2014

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Thank you amarylis dutton but How would I start the conversation? He's not an easy person to talk to because he denies everything.

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you need to talk to him about how you feel. Let him know what behaviour hurts you. If he is upfront about the masturbation would you still be upset? I have my own views on porn that I'm not going to get involved.
You need to get the communication happening again but you can't talk to him in attack mode. Trust me I know that's hard with hormones everywhere but you need to try.
Some men just can't bring themselves to have sex with their preggo woman. Does not mean he loves you less, he just can't.

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