Depression and a 2 yr old

Samantha - posted on 07/22/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I am a 24yr old stay at home mom with a 2 1/2yr old boy. Ive dealt with depression and anxiety for as long as I remember. As I got older it got worse and after having a baby it got much worse. I've been with my sons father since I was 15 and we have had a rough and rocky relationship. To make a long story short about a month ago I snapped and fell into a deep depression. I've made the decision to come off my medications (effexor and abilify) and I've been so deeply depressed that I can't get out of bed. I cry all the time. I feel like I'm ruining my sons life because I can't be the mom I should be. Don't get me wrong ALL of his needs are always met and I love him very much. I never have the motivation to leave the house, I just always want to be alone and dwell in my disease. I don't know how to stop this vicious cycle. I want to be happy and normal and give my son a better happier life. I can't stand when he sees me cry and lately I've noticed a negative change in his behavior. He always says no and he's mean and angry. My boyfriend doesn't understand what depression truly is and he is sticking this out as best as he can and I feel like a straight burden to my son and boyfriend because I can't control this illness. Any advice? How to help myself? Motivation? I'm so miserable and can't stand to see my son grow up with a mother like this. I am very lonely and have no one to ever talk to about this or real close friends. Any advice to help me change me life for the sake of my family will be very appreciated. Thanks for listening

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Sarah - posted on 07/22/2013

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I can understand that. I would still talk with your doc. But I can also understand wanting to figure out who you are without the medication. I don't struggle with depression, so not sure if these things will help or not.....just some things I have learned for myself.

I have found if I have a routine that helps me. It gives me a plan for the day. I do allow for flexibility though too. Another thing that helps is having things to get up and go to. If you are a stay home mom your days can seem to run altogether and your days can get boring. Find some play groups you can join. MOPS is also a nice group that allows the moms to get together while their are babysitters for the kids....you are all at the same location. So if you did a MOPS group one day, a play group another, lunch with a friend another day, and then a couple of other things the next two days you have something each day to look forward to.

Another thing that helps is to exercise. Find something you enjoy doing (for me it is walking). Your body releases a chemical when you exercise that actually helps with depression. Sometimes it can be hard getting yourself motivated to go exercise, so make some goals. For me to help me keep on track with my walking I started doing some walking races.....5k's, 1/2 marathons and full marathons. This helped me stay on track and you get an extra push of motivation when you get a meddle for your work. If you can get a friend that will work-out with you. This gives you company and also keeps you accountable. If you can't get a friend try some headphones and some good work-out music and then a friend that you can text your progress with back and forth.

Samantha - posted on 07/22/2013

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I have been on multiple different medications and none has really worked for me, I feel like my body needs a break from drugs and see who I really am and learn to function without medication

Sarah - posted on 07/22/2013

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My question to you is why did you go off your medication? It sounds like medication would be helpful to your health and your family. My suggestion to you would be to talk with your doctor. Find out what medication you should be on. It may take a little trial and error to get the right kind and dosage, but I think that is what you are needing.

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