Stacie - posted on 06/16/2015 ( 10 moms have responded )
My hubby and I are happily married with a blended family. I came in to our marriage with two boys while he came into our marriage with one son. The ages are 10, 11, and 14. My husband adopted the two sons I brought into our family and the awesome son he brought in, we only have shared custody of. Here is the tough part. We have tormented over the decision on whether or not to have another child. You see, my husbands only biological child is infertile. He had complications as a baby that have made it impossible to ever have a biological child. We have gone through so many different emotions on this! We would LOVE to have a beautiful child together! It seems though that every time we try and decide what to do, we get stuck! Oh! And my tubes are tied (kind of an important fact) , so we would need to get a reversal. Our concerns are many. 1. We want to be sure to give our three boys we have, all the time and attention they deserve. 2. Our oldest wants no part of a new baby. 3. We would have a pretty big age gap. 4. We would be older parents (we would be 35 or 36 when the baby is born) 5. We wouldnt be able to travel like we planned 6. We love our time together and routine we have.
Those are the concerns...But the blessings are 1. We would have the gift of a beautiful life we made together who we know we would be completely crazy about. 2. We both want to see my husbands genes carried on. 3. We don't want to regret not having a child together.
What do we do!? HELP!