desperate lost mom needs help/advice PLEASE!

Wendy - posted on 04/07/2015 ( 2 moms have responded )

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Where to begin I am at a total loss on what to do my soon to be step son comes and goes when he wants does not have a job and dropped out of school. If rules are applied he gets very angry even if you try and talk and he don't like what you are saying he leaves maybe for rest of day or for a few days. He has in past destroyed walls doors gets violent. He says he is not loved and he is worthless gonna drive off a bridge. The father does not want to kick him out because he knows he won't make it. Also he raised him and brother for the mother walked out when they were young. The father has two other children from another marriage but has no contact and don't want to that to happen with these. He sleeps all day when he does come home. If you approach him with anything other then what he wants to talk about he says things like "everyone is out to get me it's always all my fault I can't do anything I don't know what to do I think I will go drive off a cliff" He has excuses for everything no matter what.The tension and stress levels are so high, All are uncomfortable. I have read several sites, books and articles but none have helped. This young man has all the control and plays on dads weak side. I don't know what to do can anyone please help me???

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Wendy - posted on 04/07/2015

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first I want to thank everyone for getting back to me so quickly I hear what everyone's saying he needs to be thrown out but the father won't do it because he has no contact with his previous children he don't want to lose these and knows this one will fail on his own and more than likely end in jail or dead so if there any other options that anyone may have advice on to do would be greatly appreciated

Cameo - posted on 04/07/2015

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Wow that sounds like me my mother left me my dad remarried and I felt very lost and angry doing the same things as your step son is. Well inwsnshowin tuff love I got kicked out had to fend on my own even had to live in a shelter . I did put myself in really bad positions cause I was angry but my dad had no choice but to let me figure stuff out on my own, ism know 26yrs old have a little boy and in school a.ill b honest I never new what I had until it was gone.I hope this helps .

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