DESPERATE Potty training HELP!

Heather - posted on 07/14/2009 ( 99 moms have responded )

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My son is almost 4 he will be Sept 1st and has no need to potty train I NEED HELP any suggestions oh by way I am a stay at home mom so I can and will try ANYTHING!!! HELP ME PLEASE!!

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Jackie - posted on 07/24/2009

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Have you tried the 3 day potty training method? I did it with my 2 yr, 2mo old and it works. Took more like 7 days but it was a great method. (3daypottytraining.com)

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Naomi - posted on 07/24/2009

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the way I did it with all my three kids and my 3yrs old does not wet the bed even at night. I was a stay home mom at the time so I will send each of them to use the bathroom after each meals or after 2hrs which ever one comes first and before bed time. I also wake them up to use the bathroom, it wasn't easy at first but it did work.

Let me know if it works. Good luck.

Michelle - posted on 07/23/2009

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My son will be 3 December 24 and I have tried the stickers, picking out the big boys underwears and yes he knows where the potty is and how to use it but he'll pee on the floor or in the bed then tells me he is wet. As for #2 I had him trained by age 2. Everyone tells me he'll do it in his own time. But I'm fustrated.

Vanessa - posted on 07/23/2009

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Hi Heather, My daughter Mia turned 4 on June 5th and potty trained 2 weeks before her b-day. She knew when she was wet, and just didn't care. I finally just sat her down one morning and said. Mia you are almost 4, your a big girl and you now pee and poo on th epotty. We then went around the house and gathered all her pull-ups and threw them away. she had several accidents the first few days, but we've never looked back.

GL....it WILL happen!!!!

Kim - posted on 07/23/2009

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I think the only way is to completeing get rid of the diapers and offer rewards. Only rewards. No discouragement. There are a lot of potty charts online. It is very hard, I too have been there. Good Luck!!

Chris - posted on 07/22/2009

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I had luck with the reward system when we were potty training Lauren. Everytime she did #1, she received 1 M&M and 2 M&Ms for #2. It seemed pretty simply and I was skepitcal at first, but was shocked and thankful when it worked!



Good Luck!

Melissa - posted on 07/20/2009

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as someone suggested before, i'm starting the 3 dya potty training program wednesday. my son is about to turn 2, and since i am home with him in the summer (i teach) and have the time to dedicate to it now, i thought i'd give it a try! i've heard GREAT reviews, so i sprung the $25 for the ebook. if you'd like to check it out, there is a coupon code for 10% off. the code is totline. good luck! i willl let you know how it goes at the end of the week!

Madeline - posted on 07/20/2009

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One thing i tried with my daughter was that i bought her a small toilet training seat in her favorite character and she was excited to sit on it. It only took a few months for her to use the toilet on her own but she still likes to sit on her spongebob seat. Another thing you can try is put a cheerio in the toilet and tell him to aim at it. This also reduces messes.

Stephanie - posted on 07/19/2009

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Both my sons were potty trained pretty early: at 21/2 and 2! What I did was pretty fun for them: I drew a road on a paper with numbered squares and together we put treat or "gift" they would like to get ( a few M&M's, a little car, a lollipop,,,,and spread the treats along the road (every 5# for example). Then I got little cars stickers and let them put one on the first # when they went in the potty (or everytime they really tried!)

I put the sheet on the wall across the potty! then we will sit and read a story or something to relax! (stress and pressure doesn'twork) make it a fun time! (and don't remove stickers if accident happens!!! use positive reinforcement!)

They were really looking forward the next treat and they were on the "road of potty training!!" Good luck

Tatum - posted on 07/18/2009

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I had to use different techniques with my two oldest boys. But what I have found that worked for the both of them was on the first week work with them without pull ups just big boy underwear. Give him a reward (something he doesn't get often) and he should only get this when he goes potty. My oldest was M&M's and the second was stickers. Make him go to the bathroom every 30 minutes. Set a timer to remind you both. The only time I used pull ups was when we were away from home and at night time. Invest in a mattress protector. Also, make sure he uses the potty before getting in bed and then wake him in the middle of the night to take him again. Rise early and bathroom again. We started out at bedtime, midnight, 3am, 6am. We were able to drop the midnight very quickly and even the 6am within a few months. They both enjoyed being read to while they were sitting on the potty. Be sure to give a lot of praise and make a huge deal when he does use the potty or his pull up is dry in the mornings. Good luck.

Melissa - posted on 07/18/2009

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I have an almost 4 year old also. He had to be completely trained before he could move up to the 3 yr old class in daycare. I took a long weekend and told him that pull-up were gone and he had to wear underwear. We had a few accidents but he did great. He did not pull-ups again except at night. You really have to be diligent. He is no longer in daycare and we had a really bad relapse with pooping. he refused to go on the potty for almost 6 mos. I resorted to keeping him in the house and keeping him naked. he had no choice but to go on the toilet. Make a huge deal over it when he goes. they love the praise. My son has finally started going on the toilet again and we really heap on the praise. So he goes around telling everybody "I pooped on the potty!!!" We even called his aunt, and cousins to share the news. He love telling people about his success.

Janet - posted on 07/18/2009

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Honestly, you know your child better than anyone, so you need to get creative.. some people have told me their kid hated to get his shirt wet so that is all she put on him while potty training and he would go in the potty to avoid getting his shirt wet.. I am sure you have heard the put things in the potty for him to "aim at" .. make it fun! But really they will go when they are ready...I was really frustrated w/ my first boy he was going to be held back from entering kindergarten because he was not trained, but one day it just clicked ! Take a breather, don't panic and think about him and what you think will work

Ellie - posted on 07/18/2009

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My 4 year old was a nightmare to train. I just gave up on it and he did it on his own at his pace. He was 1 month away from being 4. We would just remind him about the potty and not push the issue. One day he had a friend over and he watch him do it and he did it the next day and hasn't had an accident since. Give up on it for a week or two and try again or let watch another little boy do. don't stress yourself anymore. he will do it at his pace and when he is ready. I have 2 month old, when it is time I'm going to just let him figure it out. Hope this helps.

Shannon - posted on 07/17/2009

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OK I'm sure by the looks of it you have 101 suggestions. But maybe 102, will help. lol. I have 4 girls who all potty trained themselves. period! Don't even reamber training them other than saying if you want ruffle undies go in the potty. DONE DEAL!! My son...different story. I remembered from being a "nanny", (no it's not a joke), having to train two boys. I used the same method. I put pictures (sm. cut out ones) of cartoons, super heroes, trucks, whatever... and would put 3-4 of them in the toilet, then I would tell him which ones to aim at. He actually started learning colors that way. In no time at all we were trained. I would take a baggie with me, (let him choose), to where ever and if he had to go I would stand him on my feet cuz a public toilet was too high, and he would go. People would laugh at us in other stalls but thought it was a great idea. DO NOT USE FRUIT LOOPS OR EDIBLES. I learned the hard way. They will try to eat it if your not looking. lol. I hope this helps. It makes it less of a hassle. It's more fun and they let you know when they need to go cuz they want to aim. Rewards if they tell you and go are big too in addition.

Sue - posted on 07/17/2009

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This is going to sound crazy and everyone I tell this to laughs at me but here goes. I would put cherrios in the toliet and tell my son to "sink the ships". By making a game out of it the whole thing seemed a little easier for him. Wal-Mart used to sell something called "Piddlers" which were shaped like fish and were safe for your sewer or septic system. They were different colors and floated. I used them once and then started using the cherrios. They were cheaper and had the same effect.

Julie - posted on 07/17/2009

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I was a single mom during potty training time and didn't know what I was doing. He hated sitting on the toilet to go potty. I finally got tired of the dippers and decided I wasn't going to buy them anymore. I would just take him to the bathroom every half hour and make him try to go. He had a lot of wet pants. Then one day while I was out to eat with my parents my dad offered to take Luke to the bathroom and when they came back he was so excited because grandpa let him pee standing up the a big man does and we had no more problems. He found out that even big boys have to sit down to go #2 and was very proud of himself that he was just like a big boy.

Alison - posted on 07/17/2009

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My son was 31/2 when he trained himself. All the little girls in my mothers group where "toilet trained" a lot earlier and I used to get some dirty looks when I had to change his nappy. We were at home one day and I said to him "how about wearing some undies today". He got very exicited about it. We had two little accidents that day and that was it. Three days later he refused to wear a nappy to bed and in the last year and a half we have only had about five accidents. He even gets up in the middle of the night and goes to the toilet by himself and I have not had to say to him do you need to go to the toilet constantly. I have learnt not to push they will get it right in their on time. Just support him and he will get it and don't worry about what other mums say because most of the time even though they are saying there child is trained the child isn't.

Crystal - posted on 07/17/2009

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My daughter turned 3 in june(09) . She was not interested in going to the potty or toilet at all. I tried the the pull-ups and that is just like a nappy. She didnt care! So one morning I let her go around with no pants, nappy, pull-ups etc Just naked from the waist down. She started going to the potty. When she done something ( no matter how big or small) I gave her 4 mini m&ms( Orange blue green red etc). I aloso told her I was VERY proud of her and it made mummy and daddy so happy to see that she was a big girl giong to the potty. After 3-4 days she started to wear undies and about a week later. We are going to the toilet not the potty. Now 1 week later we are still going to the toilet still wearing undies and no more M&ms. The hardest thing is not to get angry when they have an acident!! Hope it helps you. She is my number 4 child out of 5 and im 4 months pregnant with number 6,

Amanda - posted on 07/17/2009

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hi heather i lazy bout botty training my son he was nearly three and still in nappys it took me a week to potty train him all i did with him was put him in undies and continuously took him to the toilet every hour on the hour and soon enough he started telling me when he needed to go toilet we had a few accidents especially with number twos but he hasnt done that in a long time it is great and saves alot of money not buying so many nappys he is still in nappys at nite good luck with potty training you will get in to a routine with him soon keep trying

Tricia - posted on 07/17/2009

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Sounds silly but go to Dr. Phil.com and check out his classic section. He had a terrific idea and says it is to work in one day. Good Luck!

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I bought one of those wind up chickens that walks then drops jelly beans from his backside. Every time my son would go I would put a few M&M's (he loves M&M's) in it, wind it up & let it go. Then of course he could eat the candy. He would get so excited!! I made it a really fun game & we called it the pooping chicken. Being naked helps & put him in underwear!! I know you have probably been told this a thousand times but when he's ready, he will go. Good luck & hang in there!!!

Rebecca - posted on 07/17/2009

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Quoting Cyndi:



Quoting Pamela:




Quoting Dana:

Hi Ladies, Actually, I have a problem with this as well. My current issue is, my 2 1/2 year old doesn't want the little potty, she wants the 'big' potty, only problem is that I can never actually tell if she pees on it. Any ideas on how to figure this one out?




I had the same problem with my daughter. It was important that I beleive her and not assume that she's lying because I couldn't see anything. The only way I could really tell is if the toilet paper was wet after I helped her wipe or if I stood right there while she was going. It can be time cunsuming and frustrating because there are so many ideas out there and every child is different. Good luck!


 







 

Kimberley - posted on 07/17/2009

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try ready books about it watching cartoons about it sitting on the toilet and him on the potty but never get mad at him it's worse he can be scared of something try talking to your family doctor good luck

Ricarda - posted on 07/17/2009

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I have 2 young boys 13 months apart. It isnt easy trying to train but with patients you will succeed. Best time to start for me was as soon as they wake up in the morning put him straight on the potty then again after breakfast. Keep introducing it to him every 15 - 20 mins and get him to wear his pants. if the potty dont work try the toilet

Jennifer - posted on 07/16/2009

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I started to read the posts but there were soo many of them. When we trained our son we was also about to turn 4 in a month. I told him either start using the potty and wear big boy underwear or there will be no big birthday party. He would get one but not with all our neighbors and friends, just family. I told him diapers and pull ups cost too much, so party or more pull ups. I put him in underwear and with in one or two weeks he was accident free. Then we had the big party. Also, the "Elmo's Potty Time" video is great if he likes him. This was almost a year ago. I didn't try to potty train him before our new adopted daughter came home right after he turned three because I thought he would have enough trama with that alone. I too stay home and it was always just him and I until Daddy came home. At that age they just want the control thing. I gave away stickers for trying and $5 videos from Walmart and Target or Hot Wheels (only $1 each so stock up on them) when he went potty. I had a little basket and let him pick the prize. I just trained our daughter now 2 1/2 in less than one week. She was too easy. Elmo made a big part in it and painting her nails while she sat on the potty really helped. We also have a potty cheer/dance when they go in the beginning. Also, this is sounds bad but it worked...tell him when he poops and pees it goes to the poop and pee monster. He collects them and stores them(not eats them!!) in those giant silos that you see on farms and such. It sounds horrible but it works. When he goes and a lot comes out he says how excited the poop monster will be when he sees that, even to this day he says that. He can also live at industrial plants with all those buildings and cool smoke stacks. You have to think like a kid and what you think he would like as a graduation gift to go along with his new underwear or let him pick out one big item that he really wants and can't wait for Santa to bring and dangle it over him. He picked out the 8 piece car "Cars" race set, it was only $35 but well worth it-cheaper than diapers. Good luck and it will work out soon.

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Hey. You could try finding a favorite stuffed animal or character and tell your son that they are going to go potty without him. My girl was 3 and a half before she was potty trained and then watch out if you stick him in day care or VBS for a wk this may create a set back or you can provide a pull-up for accidents. My daughter likes her panties to much to switch back to pull-ups so it gave her positive reinforcement to stay dry while remembering to go potty.

Nikki - posted on 07/16/2009

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My son really loves books so I associated potty time with reading a book. I would sit on the floor and go through as many books as he wanted to until he asked to get off the potty because then it seemed fun to him. I also just put him on the toilet every twenty minutes and ten minutes after he has a drink even if he said he did not have to go. You have to get them to be dry for a few days by you initiating the potty time and then they will get mad when they feel wet. It takes time, but it really does work. My son is two and he already gets up in the middle of the night and tells me when he needs to go.

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I found the "Potty Power" and "Elmo goes Potty" DVDs to be very helpful. I also checked out the book "Everybody Poops" from the library, and had lots of books and toys around the potty so there were things to do. We also made up songs to familiar tunes like "Where is thumbkin" became "Isaac can potty, Isaac can potty, yes he can, yes can, pee pee on the potty, pee pee on the potty, whiz whiz whiz" It made him laugh and it worked.

Leslie - posted on 07/16/2009

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we started by putting a paper of big girl panties on under a pair of pull ups, so the child can feel the wetness. i also took my daughter in every hour or so when i went to potty. we started with m&ms one for potty two for poppy. so far so good. she is doing good with potty, but having a hard time with poppy.

Vitelle - posted on 07/16/2009

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The best advice I could give would be to start early! Introduce them to the potty as soon as they can stand on their own... maybe earlier. Then it won't be such a shocking surprise when you say, "Okay no more peeing and pooping on yourself, you've got to put it in this big porcelain thing now". I had both of my boys potty trained by the time they were 1 1/2. I used pull-ups but not for long, maybe a few weeks. Then I jumped into the underwear and just cleaned up the mess all the time... but they learned faster because mommy kept having to clean up the mess and that did not make her happy! :)

Lisa - posted on 07/16/2009

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My son just turned 4 on June 3. He decided that he was ready to use the potty one week before his birthday :). The only thing I ever did to encourage him was buy him underwear with images of his favorite things on them (cars and dinosaurs). The technical age of concern is 5, so if I were you, I wouldn't worry just yet, though I'm sure you're getting tired of having to change him too :).

Wendy - posted on 07/16/2009

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i havent read all of the posts that are on here so if i am repeating someone sorry, i have only potty trained one child completely, i have assisted in helping my step son a little but he spends more time at his moms house, anyways i potty trained my oldest little girl by myself, she is seven now, and im not sure what age she was i want to say around 18 months, she really like the princesses and her favorite was snow white, well i took her to the store and let her pickout two packages of new panties she picked princesses and tinkerbell (her nick name is "tink") so that might have helped, but i told her the only way she could wear her big girl panties was if she went to the big girl potty cause she was a big girl now too little for diapers, ( i only put a pull up on her at night, never during the day) i also told her that princesses always went to the potty cause they didnt like to be wet or dirty, dont know if this would be helpful for a boy or not but maybe if you got superman or spiderman and told him that action heros always went to the potty and didint like being wet then maybe it would work, also in her lifetime she has only had 2 accidents at night in the bed. hope this is helpful

Micki - posted on 07/16/2009

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use cherrios he can aim at them ( this only works on boys of course) but one thing also let him run naked around the house for some reason boys just dont care, but when there is nothing for it to soak up into they realize it. Remember you will go foward with potty training and backwards with it but be consistant, I know its a pain when you go out but make it as much as a burden to stop what he is doing to have to go and change his clothes as it is for you to do it as well. He is old enough to realize he is being lazy about it. But one thing was he born premature? I have 4 kids 2 of them twins and this does mean a whole different meaning because there body may not have developed yet. He can wear pull ups at night time but I would really get a way from that also it will be a hard hard week buy a plastic cover for his bed so it doesnt ruin the matress, I have been thru all the potty training with the boy stuff my girls were very very easy.

Holly - posted on 07/15/2009

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I worked in child care for 10 years, and had my share of rough potty training.. best thing that ever worked for me was a toilet ring, a stool, and allowing the boys to sit backward on the potty (facing the tank) this way they "rode the motorcycle" and it became a game. also, for my daughter, the stool and ring, with no diapers, no pull ups, and mattress covers. i put a basket of panties in the bathroom, so if she had an accident she knew to put her dirty panties in the tub and she had clean panties available. then she would help me hand wash her dirty panties and we would put them in the laundry basket to be machine washed later. giving her the opportunity to take control herself was the best thing i could have ever done. also read a fabulous book, called once upon a potty by alona frankel. has some basic anatomy, but very well put together... there is one each for boys and girls. Oh! and i never timed her like every 30 mins or so. i would ask if she had to go about every 2 hours or within 20 mins of drinking liquid, if the answer was no, i'd tell her she had to go when the kitchen timer went off, which was set at five minutes. soon as she heard the "beep beep" as she called it, she went in and sat. i started her at 18mos with no pressure, she did really well, then had a backslide (normal when kids are learning a new skill) and then she started up on her own at age 2. She's been dry ever since, including at night. Good luck!!

Jen - posted on 07/15/2009

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I've read a lot of good advice here. Treats and rewards for going in the potty is first. Being a stay at home mom really helps. Put him on the toilet every two hours, give him at least 10 minutes to try. I used cloth diapers to get him used to the feeling of underwear. After he's gone a week or so without messing the diaper, let him pick out his own big boy underwear.
One other trick I know for boys is to put Cheerios in the toilet and have them try to sink them when they pee. Silly, I know, but it works!

Brandy - posted on 07/15/2009

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Hi Heather--for all three of my kids 2 girls and 1 boy-- I put panties on my girls and underwear on my son and on top of them I used the rubber pants that are used for clothe diapers. This did two things---1. It allowed me time to see the urine or stool before it reached the carpet and 2. It held the urine or stool close to their bodies and it made them instantly uncomfortable which lead them to paying closer attention to their bodies on when they needed to use the restroom. Another thing is patience and time--- constantly take your little one to the restroom even when they don't say they have to--repition will help them remember to go when they feel the need and when they do feel the need to go make them sit there until they produce something rather it be urine or stool---this is where time plays a factor in it all----but this will make them want to go ahead and use the restroom so that they can go back to playing. Good Luck with it all.

Marva - posted on 07/15/2009

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Hi Heather, I just let my son pee outside in a private spot or in a tin can - he loved the sound it made. That was a lot of fun for him and very soon he was going to the toilet on his own. Try it, he should be potty trained in no time, I promise. It was easy.

Chrissy - posted on 07/15/2009

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Trained my son(4 Sept 5th) at 2 1/2 last summer by peeing outside. Learned how to use it, had fun peeing on bushes etc..has had no problems. BUT can someone tell me how to make him do #2 in the toliet. Gets his diaper for me to put on,goes in his own bathroom and does his business. Tried everything but will not use the toliet.

ps-never used pull ups..put him right in underwear

Amy - posted on 07/15/2009

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I am having the same problem. My daughter will be 4 Aug. 29th and is not fully potty trained! I get so upset. Today I just took away the pull-ups all together and she has been in underwear all day except for bed. Do you know that she did very well? I think if she wets her underwear it feels alot worse than if she is wearing a pull-up or diaper. I will not put her back in pull-ups and just deal with the accidents. I also bribe her .. don't know if that is good but I have given her lollipops ..etc. This is just today that I took away the pull-ups.... I know what you are going through. Don't want her to start pre-school not potty trained

Amy - posted on 07/15/2009

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Quoting Heather:

DESPERATE Potty training HELP!

My son is almost 4 he will be Sept 1st and has no need to potty train I NEED HELP any suggestions oh by way I am a stay at home mom so I can and will try ANYTHING!!! HELP ME PLEASE!!


I am having the same problem.  My daughter will be 4 Aug. 29th and is not fully potty trained!  I get so upset.  Today I just took away the pull-ups all together and she has been in underwear all day except for bed.  Do you know that she did very well?  I think if she wets her underwear it feels alot worse than if she is wearing a pull-up or diaper.  I will not put her back in pull-ups and just deal with the accidents.  I also bribe her ..  don't know if that is good but I have given her lollipops ..etc.  This is just today that I took away the pull-ups.... I know what you are going through.  Don't want her to start pre-school not potty trained.

Alyssa - posted on 07/15/2009

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I used a book that recommended to me from a friend. The title is "Potty Train in Three Days" by Lois Kleint. It is a very easy read. I actually copied down all Dr. Kleint's quotes onto post its and posted them throughout the house. We started on Monday and began the "Big Girl" transition into a full size bed (out of her crib) and began to talk about using the toilet and no longer needing diapers. On that Friday morning when she woke up it was on...the potty training began! You MUST go into it 500% and NO turning back! After 4 days my daughter was potty trained. She still had an accident here and there and of course still needed to be reminded that it was time to use the toilet, but hands down she was potty trained...and I was PSYCHED! NO MORE DIAPERS!! Just a thought...if you have any other children, I would try and have them maybe sleep over grandparents houses or friends so you can give your total attention to your son...trust me...it is very hard work, but totally pays off in the end! YOU CAN DO IT!

Amy - posted on 07/15/2009

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If you can wait a couple weeks I will tell you how the 3 Day potty training method worked...I would like to try this weekend but we have a lot of errands to run and just wont have the dedication the program needs. There are a few other books and programs that advertise potty training in 1 day on amazon...I'm going through the potty panic as well, my little guy had started to about 6months ago, he just wouldn't poo, now he wont even pee in the potty...so I feel desperate...baby #2 will be here in Jan...so that is my new deadline...lol

Kristin - posted on 07/15/2009

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You have to find what his motivation is. For my daughter it was picking out her own undies. She felt so grown up. She also hated it when she peed in them, so she was a quick study :) For my son, it was stickers-we did a sticker chart and he got to put a sticker on a piece of paper on the fridge. After 5 stickers he got a prize (cookie, M&M, pick a movie-whatever). He did not care about the prize-he just wanted the stickers! We had him trained in 2 weeks at age 2 and 3 months! The other suggestion-go for it-let that be your focus for the day-nothing else. The potty chair was in our living room the first 2 days then moved to the bathroom as he go the hang of it. We did not use pull ups for either child.

Kirsi - posted on 07/15/2009

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I have 5 kids so I guess I have some experience on the issue. First of all if they are not ready they are not! So don't think you are failing or spend hours sitting your kid in a potty if she or he does not want to. Not worth it. But yes if your son is almost 4 I understand your concern.

My youngest learned at preschool when he was 3 1/2, he wanted to follow the class and do as they did. And he was ready so it did not take long at all, about 2 weeks and diapers were totally gone. Sticker chart is helpful, those little stickers work like magic! Don't loose sleep over it, I'm sure he will get the idea, everyone does sooner or later...

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During the day, take off his pants and diaper and have him go around bottomless. He'll be more aware of his bodily functions. My daughter was three and couldn't care less about the potty, but as soon as I did that, she used it, and we were diaper-free with two weeks.

Cori - posted on 07/15/2009

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My son was fairly willing to potty train but had LOTS of accidents. He still has some (at age 7). It took a long time to get him to poop in the toilet. (Some kids do just take longer.) A friend of mine had a chart on the refrigerator for her son (who was going through the exact same thing as mine). He got a gold star every time he pooped in the toilet and when he filled the chart (seven stars I think) he got to choose a prize -she had a stash of things he wanted. I think they were star wars figures. For my son it was legos.



Our pediatrician also suggested it might be constipation. When they're used to always feeling like they have to go (because it gets full in there without coming out) they don't recognize the signals of having to go to the toilet. It just always feels like it has to come out whether it is or not. We also just spoke to a urologist about wetting accidents. She basically said boys have a harder time recognizing when they have to go and it's not considered a problem to wet the bed until they're teenagers. Even then it's only a problem if mom is tired of cleaning it up.



The bottom line is, your son might just not "get it". If he doesn't really recognize when he has to poop or pee, he might not understand why he needs to sit on the toilet. I think our pediatrician suggested (at that age) putting him on a schedule - if you can recognize a pattern. Sit him on the toilet at approximately the right times during the day and hang out with him for at least ten minutes. Make sure he's getting enough fiber and water (sweet potato muffins were the favorite for us) and limit stuff that makes constipation worse. I think our dr. told us apples, dairy products and white bread were bad.



Don't stress too much! It'll work out. It's good you're home and don't have a deadline imposed on you by anyone else!

Claire - posted on 07/15/2009

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Hi my son had a similar problem with the toilet. He would happily go for a wee, but would scream if he needed a poo until we gave in and put a nappy on him. This went on until last summer, when he was 3 and a half. It was becoming a real issue, especially if we were out and about as he would wear pants most of the time, and as he wasn't a baby, I didn't take nappies out with me. He was also only 2 months away from starting school, and I didn't want him to be laughed at for still needing a nappy. I literally did not put a nappy on him and we were at the swimming pool one day when he said he needed a poo. I told him we would have to go home for a nappy, or he could stay playing but he would need to use the toilet. When we got in the cubicle, he literally screamed (the other mums must have wondered what I was doing!) and then I physically held him on the toilet until he had no choice but to do it there and then. The look of pride on his face when he realised he'd been was incredible! I realised that by me still putting nappies on him on demand, I was just making the problem worse. It still took some persuading for about 2 weeks after for him to do it regularly but as soon as he was clean and dry all the time, I kicked myself for not biting the bullet much earlier. So in a nutshell, just stop putting a nappy on him, take a book or some other distraction in and read to him as well as that helped too and then just really praise him when he's done it. You might have a few messes to clear up but I was really surprised at how quickly it clicked after the first success. Good luck!

CEA - posted on 07/15/2009

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Dear Heather!

I struggled to potty train my to older boys, and when it came to my youngest. i did some research, applied it and it worked like a bomb, i waited until he was 30 months and bought a calender and some stickers he related to. Everytime de did something, he could reward himself with a sticker on the specific dat-he was trained in one week!

Good luck

Cea

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