Desperately Need Help ! Baby Wont Sleep !

Mary - posted on 12/11/2014 ( 6 moms have responded )

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Im using a fake name and email becuase I am so ashamed with how my parenting skills have been going. Im 19 years old and have an 8 month old son who wakes up constantly through out the night. I have so little sleep that I wined up yelling at him and i feel like the worst mother ever . Through out the day I have no problem taking care of him im so loving and energetic with him but the problem arises at night. I dont know what to do and i feel like ive tried so many things already . I love my son to death hes such a happy baby but i just cant get him to sleep at night. Hes such a light sleeper and I end up so frustrated that im just there crying trying to get him to sleep. He can go up to an hour sometimes waking up every five minutes and this happens almost every night. Im so ashamed to say that i look forward to having a little time away from him when ever my mom is around to help. I dont have the luxery of being able to put him in his own room to sleep, Im currently living with my mom and sleep in the living room with my son. My boyfriend just started working graveyard but even when he was around and I would ask for help and he would just yell at him as well. At times i dont even feel like i should have such a beautiful blessing in my life becuase i just dont know how to handle him. I talk to my mom about it and she finds it funny saying that im the one who wanted a kid. I feel like no one understand what im going through every night with my son.

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Mommabird - posted on 12/11/2014

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We both seem to be very helpful today :)
I wasnt clear on the nap thing though...like you said its not good to have NO NAPS! Yikes! What we did was we went from having naps from 10-12 and 2-4 down to one nap at noon and they usually sleep 2 hours. Currently they sleep from 8:30-7am...only wake up one time and we change diaper and pat their back to sleep again. But our twins are a year old...a little diff than 8 mths.

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Mary - posted on 12/21/2014

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Thank you for all the great advice you two have been giving me. Im hoping to start trying some of these things out and see if maybe something can work. I am currently working about 3 to 4 days out of the week so its hard for me to keep him on a schedule. He takes about 3 naps through the day which arent very long he sleeps maybe half an hour to an hour if im lucky.

Sarah - posted on 12/11/2014

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You are right, again. I do think so many mothers, especially young moms, believe that a sleep deprived baby will sleep longer at night! When the opposite is true!.
My mom had a saying "sleep begets sleep" . She was right, a well rested baby, will sleep better at night than a fried crabby one! :)

Sarah - posted on 12/11/2014

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Charlotte, again, I agree, you make good points.
Mary, you sound very, very normal! You might have PPD, It can occur anytime in the first two years! Give yourself a break, an 8 month old is exhausting.
Creating a bedtime routine will help, and make it early! Dinner at 5, bath at 6, snuggles, books and bottle at 7 and off to bed. Do not give up napping. A sleepy child will just be crankier and not sleep at night. Now I am now saying stick with three naps a day, but he should be down to one short and one long or even one really long afternoon nap. Try to get him outdoors every day, that helps too. Do you work? If you are home, what is the schedule you follow now?
A white noise machine or a fan just running all of the time will help. You son will sake during the night, that is normal but he must learn to settle himself back down as well.
The living room as a bedroom is not a great idea unless you can make it dark and quiet. He will learn, if it is dark and quiet, I sleep. After you get him down, don't get up with him unless he needs a diaper change. At 8 months he does not need to eat during the night but if you are nursing, you can nurse him once or twice for comfort and to help him relax. Otherwise, when you hear him rousing, turn over, put your pillow over your ears and wait it out! I promise it won't take more than a few days.
You are not alone and there is much good advice to be given, so share more about your days and we can help you turn this around!

Mommabird - posted on 12/11/2014

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Oh, forgot to add...we also cut down daytime naps. The less they sleep during the day, the more they sleep at night :)

Mommabird - posted on 12/11/2014

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You may already do some of these things but here are some things that work with our twins that helps them sleep longer. 1) we feed them dinner-solid foods-about 30 minutes before bedtime so their tummies are full and they dont wake up hungry in the middle of the night. 2) after dinner we give them a quick bath with lavender baby bath, the lavender is supposed to calm them and make them relax. 3) we dress them according to the temperature in the room, if they stay warm their less likely to pee alot in their sleep. 4) if all else fails we play some soft lullaby music in the background, sometimes the sound makes them feel comforted and they go right back to sleep.
Hope you find something that works and start getting more sleep. We're ALL grouchy when were sleep deprived!

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