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Jessica A - posted on 01/28/2015 ( 15 moms have responded )

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I've been trying figure out ways to get a divorce for free!!!! But I get no real answer from family or friends. We have separated for 6 years now ready for this get done with and move on with my life.

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Raye - posted on 01/30/2015

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If you have kids, then file in the state where the kids live most of the time. If you don't have kids, then file in your state. He can be served papers across state lines, and if they can't reach him to serve him the papers then you have to take out a newspaper ad in his area as a notice of your intent to divorce. If he doesn't respond after the allotted time, then the court will proceed with the divorce. If he responds, but contests, then it gets more complicated. If he responds and agrees to the divorce then the court proceeds with the divorce.

Dove - posted on 01/28/2015

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Divorce isn't free. If you both agree on everything you can just get the papers from the court house, fill them out yourselves, and have a judge sign off on them... but there is a filing fee. What the money amount of that fee is depends on your state.

Sarah - posted on 01/29/2015

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If you feel you've been give the run around by the county clerk, maybe try a local women's advocacy center?

Raye - posted on 01/28/2015

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I did my own divorce papers with my ex (no kids). Even if you have kids, it's not impossible to do it yourself. There are books available to get you started. Make sure you check with your state and find out of there is any special wording, format, or other requirements for Pro Se divorce. I had to pay $175 filing fee plus notary charge for the property agreement.

If you can't get the ex to agree to divorce and he doesn't show up to court, there are still ways to get it done, but it usually takes at least a year.

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 01/29/2015

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Across state lines divorces happen all the time.

Jodi - posted on 01/28/2015

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There's no such thing as a "free" divorce, but in many places you can file for divorce for a minimal cost if you can both agree on everything and it is not contested. I know when I did mine, it was what we call a "Do It Yourself Divorce" and I think it was about $300 to file. However, I DID have to already have financial and custody orders in place, and because we couldn't agree on those things, I needed a lawyer.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 01/28/2015

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Divorce isn't free. As both Dove and Sarah have suggested, there are resources for filing without attorneys, etc, but you both have to completely agree on all terms and conditions, and still pay the filing fee.

Trisha - posted on 01/28/2015

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I want to mention also, that I am from Canada. It will be different here than in the states I am sure.

Trisha - posted on 01/28/2015

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Have you checked this resource yet? https://www.rosen.com/divorce/divorcearticles/divorceguide/

Trisha - posted on 01/28/2015

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This was an entirely frustrating process for me as well. After 4 separate trips to the city hall to attempt to file, I was sent upstairs to the library IN THE CITY HALL, and there were advisors there who actually sat down and helped me through the process.
The only thing the process cost me was $200, split with my ex for the filing of the paperwork. Otherwise, not a dime was spent. It took me a full 2 years of attempting this process though. I came home in tears multiple times frustrated from getting my hopes up and being disappointed time and time again.

Jessica A - posted on 01/28/2015

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@dove and Sarah e. I have tried my local office but they are no help they are giving a run around. They tell me they can't help me to call Raleigh North Carolina for self help but they also told me they do not help with divorce case as well I'm so stressed and I gave up on trying to get a divorce even though I want one so bad. N yes nothing in life is free but I don't want to spend to much out of pocket just for this. N yes I've went to lawyer but to just speak to him would cost $500 just to talk! I'm at my wits ends with this just need clear answers

Sarah - posted on 01/28/2015

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To find the cost of a self-settled divorce, call your county clerks office. You can get the forms as well as the filing fee schedule. You will have to be 100% in agreement regarding assets, support and children.

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