Did anyone suffer from anxiety/depression after their baby was born??

Lisset - posted on 02/16/2009 ( 12 moms have responded )




After the birth of my son, I would sometimes burst into tears for no apparent reason during different moments of the day, with moments of extreme sadness. I later found out that I had the "baby blues", but not until I was already over it. I felt like I wasn't connecting with him, the only time I was feeling connected was when I was breastfeeding him. Thankfull it's been a while since I've been over it. I love him so much, he's my sunshine to a rainy day!

Has anyone else ever experienced this??


Latavia - posted on 02/16/2009




I have and didn't notice it until after it was over. Just about every little thing that I did pertaining to my son made me depressed. My son's father left me when I was 5 1/2 months pregnant and I believe that's what triggered it. My son is 8 now and he is my reason for everything and I've found a man who loves the both us.

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Chesnie - posted on 02/19/2011




oh gosh yeah..I cried when i came home because of the depression of leaving the hospital (I always go through depression after hospital stays) I was used to having being waited on hand and foot by nurses, getting lots of attention and a little bit of sleep and then i had to do it with the help of my hubby of course, add to that the fact that i was recovering from a c section pain and our bed is up high. Our house and life was chaotic and i just wanted to give up. I had fears of walking and droppin our baby, or me falling blah blah..I asked the dr if he would put her back in my tummy cuz she was easier to take care of there..lol..i called my dr crying and he put me on zoloft. I never breastfed so i was ok taking those. My mom wanted to be in charge and stay with me the first week and my husband said no, he wants to obviously.. I was stressed!

A'ishah - posted on 02/17/2009




Guess you not alone Lisset. I got mine too. I was told many times by my mom that I shouldn't cry "unnecessarily" cause it will effect my visions. Like everyone, the crying come so unexpectedly. When my first son has a bloated tummy less than a month old, I remembered him crying, soon after I was crying with him too. Even when he stopped, I still crying. Then any comments from my mom, I started to cry, be it a compliment or a nag. I soon get over it by talking to close friends that makes me realised that I'm going through "baby blues". Then came my 2nd son 4 years later. My depression/baby blues is slightly bad this time round, coz the feeling included hating my 2nd son. Same like some of u ladies here, I breast fed my 2nd son too (much longer than the 1st), and slowly with his tiny fingers, chubby cheeks & round eyes, I began to accept him and love him. Both experiences, I managed with talking to close friends & self thought by reading books. Now my boys are soon to be 13 and 9 years respectively. Time flies very fast ya! So, to those newly mom-to-be cherish yr lil ones, don't blame them. It's ok to let go your emotions but find some one that you can trust on to talk with. It helps also if you are able to open up and let your hubbies know how you're feeling and just tell them that you're going through the "blues". Educate them too by sharing yr "unexpected emotions ourburst" and just be sincere abt it. Things will be ok... Stay healthy physically, mentally and spiritually everyone. :D

Kari - posted on 02/17/2009




I am a mother of 3 and they range in age from 14 yrs old down to my youngest who is 7 months old.  I did not experience anything in the way of anxiety or depression related to birth with my older two; but with my littlest things were very different for me from the time he was born and for the first 3 months.  I felt severe anxiety about getting everything done ( and just right; I have perfectionist tendencies).  My husband was supportive; however, he just thought I was overwhelmed due to sleep deprivation and didn't know how he could help to make it better.  My mother realized that it was not just a lack of sleep; but rather it was a hormonal imbalance.  She asked to take me back to my OB and he was so caring and wonderful.  His practice includes a psychiatrist who sees women solely for women's health issues and she has been wonderful to see as well.  I am on an extremely low dosage of medicine that allows my body to use the seratonin that it makes naturally.  I have been informed that the hormone buildup from the pregnancy blocks the seratonin receptors in the brain and that is what we need to '"level us out" and keep ourselves from being stressed by the smallest and unusual things.  It started working for me quickly and I am so much more myself and truly do not stress over much at all.  I am so thankful that I can enjoy my children and husband 100% now.  I have tried to be very detailed b/c  it is my sincerest desire that anyone who is wondering why they feel this way would be encouraged to seek out help. You, your baby, and all of your loved ones deserve to have you feeling good and like yourself again.


Kim - posted on 02/16/2009




Oh my gosh yes!! It was the worst feeling. I loved my son so much but could not get that bad feeling out of my mind. I ended up taking medication because I was having a really hard time getting over it. Thank goodness it did not happen with my second child.

Kaja - posted on 02/16/2009




I did terribly with my first one. I kept telling my husband I was taking our son and dog and leaving...I didn't know where I was going but I was leaving. He called my doc and they put me on some meds which helped tremendously! I suffered from depression while I was pregnant with our second son. I was still on the meds but they weren't working. I was sent to a counselor and that helped a lot. Definately talk to your doctor and I recommend counseling just to let things out. It really helps and it's always great when you can get an outsiders perspective on things.

Michelle - posted on 02/16/2009




i had severe depression and anxiety after my first and said i would never go through that again. it was twelve months before i got help because ppl kept telling me to suck it up and get on with it.So my recovery was long, I had medication and it pretty much saved my life.

i was soooo very scared with the unexpected arrival of my 11 wk old, i didn't ever want to feel like that again. Luckily this time i have lots of support and I'm well. I still feel a lot of guilt though that i have bonded better with my baby then my first.:-(. And i had to work really hard to change our relationship and now we're good!

I speak out because there is none of the shame that is put upon us. If i tell my story then someone else might get help and not suffer like my daughter and i did. You don't have to suck it up :-)

Alison - posted on 02/16/2009




i did with my 3rd child (son). He also had jaundice, and everytime they told me something in the hospital i would start crying. They kept telling me i had to stay another day and i kept crying.. it lasted the first 6 weeks or so. Then i was sad when we left the hospital even though i really wanted to leave. I never experienced this with my first two. but knew what it was while i was going through it.

Gayle - posted on 02/16/2009




Oh yes, I had it so bad. I was a terrifed first time mom. I was so stressed out and scared. Night time was the worst for me, I felt like I would never be the same. I was put on a small dose of anti depressants this time around so I will be better balanced. Also I feel like an old pro at motherhood now. PS- to anyone else reading this post, if you do have feelings of dispare or depression, PLEASE get help! Call a friend, a realitive, your husband but do not hold it in and be ashamed. We as women go through so much with labor and delivery not to mention 9 months of pregnancy.

Heather - posted on 02/16/2009




I have. My, now 11 month old, daughter had very bad jaundice when she was born, with severe bruising after she got stuck. The doctors kept telling me that treatment and to keep breastfeeding her would get rid of it only to find it got worse so I ended up believing it was my milk making her sicker. I had the baby blues and the self guilt ended up resulting in my needing to be put on anti-depressants because I was scared to bond with her. Things are better now however I now have seperation anxiety and am fearful of leaving her with anyone incase they hurt her.

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I have, & like you I did not notice til I was over it. I would snap for anything. At night, I would be going to bed & just burst into tears. & my husband literally thought I was going insane. But it is very common for women to have this.

Christina - posted on 02/16/2009




I have. Sounds silly but did not really realise I was doing it for a while. It was when I got a blob of baby porridge on the carpet and I cried for 10 mins it dawned on me something was not right! Once I knew what was happening it was easier to deal with and before long it felt much better. I have a second child now as well and when it happened with her I knew what i was dealing with. It is not as uncommon as people think - they just don't realise it is happening or put it down to being a tired or a bad day!

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