Audrey - posted on 07/26/2012 ( 60 moms have responded )
Hi, my name is Audrey, I am fairly new to this site. I registered to get input and advise on situations throughout my pregnancy, I'm only 10.5 weeks. So.
When I first found out I was pregnant I was still dating the father. We had many issues before hand due to a certain "girl" trying to interfere. He would get belligerently drunk and say/do things that NO one should have to deal. We had a few physical altercations resulting in the police being called but no chargers were brought up at the time. As time progressed he kept PUSHING for an abortion, but I'm strong willed and refused. I couldn't live with knowing that I took my little ones life. He did not like this. Ever since that day he is wishy-washy with what he wants. Going from telling me he hates me, to he loves me, to threatening to take MY child away from me. He said he will never love the child, but in spite of me he will do and say whatever it is he has to do to make sure I have no rights to this baby. I completely lost it at that point.
He has threatened my well being and my childs, he was constantly throwing in my face that I'm still in the red zone and I could miscarry at any given point in time. (It's what he was aiming for) He also told me he was going to have his Mother, Cousin and Aunt "jump" me to cause me to miscarry. Along with being called a slut, whore, ect daily I got tired of hearing this. The constant threats via phone call had to come to an end.
I filed for a retraining order yesterday to prevent any bodily harm to myself and my unborn child. Considering things have been physical before, I did not want it to happen again. For God's sake, I have a hematoma (sp?) on my leg, that has not gone away, it's been over TWO months now. The muscle that used to lay underneath the bite mark has disintegrated and will no longer be usable. He was also served with communicating threats, so there is a warrant out for his arrest. His mother decided to call me today and threaten my well being as well.
There was an incident a few months prior with him getting drunk and kicking in his parents front door because they locked him out and changed the key. At that given point and time I was living there. I had a key. But I was at work. A police report was filed against him, but never followed through with. His mother is not stating even though she knows I didn't break into her house she is pinning it off on me. I mean for Gods sake, I have time logs proving I was at work. A statement to the police that he did it. She cannot recant the statement now, can she? These people are absolutely nuts!! They think just because they come from money they can say and do whatever they please. I am not well off by any means. I'm a 19 year old college student who just moved back home to my mothers. We aren't poor, but we don't have money coming out of our ears.
Now I'm regretting filing for this restraining order. I feel as if I have opened up a can of something I cannot control. My friends don't understand because they are fairly naive to the situation. My older friends are all married with children who have never had to encounter it. I just need some support, some input, something. I'm so entirely scared of this whole process. I didn't want things to come to this, but I'm tired of crying, hurting, wondering when he is going to explode again. I just want to feel safe again. I don't think that is ever going to happen!! I'm petrified.