Did I over punish my 13 year old daughter?

Amanda - posted on 12/14/2014 ( 10 moms have responded )

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My 13 year old daughter has gone $50 over her text limit, when I was trying to talk to her about it she started telling me she really doesn't care and to leave her alone. I then told her she was grounded for 5 days from all electronics I also took her phone.
Did I over punish I feel like I did.

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Jodi - posted on 12/14/2014

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Actually, the better consequence would have been to withhold credit. Why does she even have a plan that goes over what you allocate? When my son was that age, he had a certain amount of credit and then if he hit the limit, tough luck. Time for some tough love. Does she not earn her own credit??

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 12/17/2014

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In my house, she'd be working off the overage, plus any extra charges incurred by her irresponsibility, and the phone would be removed until she could indicate understanding of limits.

However, in my house, this was avoided by only allowing prepaid phones, which still have all of the texting, calling, and data capabilities. When the monthly limit is reached, the phone shuts off, except for 911 availability.

No, mom, you didn't over punish! Good job!

Nichole - posted on 12/17/2014

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No, you did just what you need to do to get the point across. My sister is going through a similar situation with her 14 year old. Yes, get her to pay of the $50.00 in some way, and also maybe limit her texting and phone privileges when she gets it back, just to bring the point home and earn back the right to use more.

Elizabeth - posted on 12/15/2014

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You did not overreact. I would have taken the phone also. I would make her work off the $50 as well. Having a phone is a privilege not a right.

Gena - posted on 12/15/2014

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i dont find it harsh!! And i agree with the others,she should work to pay off those $50.

Ledia - posted on 12/14/2014

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I'm with Little Miss....I don't think that is harsh at all.

I do need my son to have his phone, so I couldn't take it away from him completely. I would have taken the phone any time she was at home and only given it to her when I needed her to have it. Also, I would have made her do extra chores to earn back the $50, or pay it back out of her own money. If your plan allows it, I would have blocked texting completely until the $50 is paid back.

We had a similar issue this month where my son was using money from his school lunch account to purchase junk food multiple times a week. I allow him one junk item on Fridays, but he was purchasing junk items 2 or 3 times each week and blew through the money that should have covered lunches for about 3 months in less than 6 weeks. I've blocked his account so that he cannot purchase snacks until he finds a way to pay me back for all of the snack food he bought. I told him that if he does it again, he will be responsible for adding funds to his lunch account from his own pocket because I cannot trust him to manage money I give him responsibly.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 12/14/2014

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Also, I would make her work he snarky little butt off to pay off that money. Chores around the house etc.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 12/14/2014

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Nope you sure didn't. In fact, I would have taken it for a month.

Dove - posted on 12/14/2014

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My kids have a phone w/ limited talk... but unlimted text... so there is no way to go over the text limit... it's only $25/month....

Something like that might be a better, cheaper option.

During the 5 days she is grounded from electronics she could be doing chores to earn back that $50. 'I' would not take away the phone longer than the 5 days, but 'I' need my kids to have a phone.

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