did you have your baby boy circumsized?
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Kate CP - posted on 02/03/2011
The thing about routine infant circumcision is it is on the DECLINE in the US and Canada and so it's no longer the norm. This article states that in 2006 about 56% of boys were circumcised at birth whereas the following year only about a third of newborns were circumcised. And the rates are falling every year. http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story...
By the time our infant sons are old enough to be in locker rooms and be "noticed" by other boys the chances are good that the new "norm" will be intact penises and not circumcision.
Merry - posted on 02/03/2011
Yeah drs are realizing that circumcision is not beneficial enough to do it to the majority, it's like having tonsils removed as preventative care.
Or like removing the appendix to prevent infection.
Or putting ear tubes in to prevent ear infections.
Sure these surgerys could save a few from pain later ini life, but the vast majority wouldn't need it to begin with so it's just a preventative surgery that most boys never will need.
Florida and California are working on making infant circumcision illegal unless medically necessary.
I bet soon all of America will have circumcision illegal unless specifically necessary.
Kate CP - posted on 02/01/2011
I just had my son 5 days ago and nope, he's an intact boy! Although I had nurses and doctors ask me over and over again if I was going to have him circumcised. The idea of an intact penis is hard for some people wrap their heads around.
There is no evidence that a circumcised penis is cleaner or healthier than an intact penis. In fact, when they are so young (infants) the foreskin protects the urethra from foreign objects like feces and dead skin. The tip only opens during urination so the only time it's open is when pee is being forced out. It's very clean and healthy to have an intact penis.
If you WANT to circumcise your son that's your choice. But more and more parents are realizing that routine infant circumcision is just for cosmetic purposes. Intact penises are just as clean (if not cleaner!) as a circumcised one. :)
Paula - posted on 02/02/2011
Yes our son was and it was because my husband would not take no for an answer. We fought through most of the pregnancy over this. Well, our baby is 7months now and the circumcision did not heal correctly even though it was well cared for and now we have to see a urologist to have it cut and repaired. 3 of our pediatricians in the practice swore (at 1month,2, &4 month well visits) that this was normal looking and it would come undone on its own. Only at the 6month visit did I see the OLDER pediatrician who told me the scar tissue was very dense and it would not come undone on its own. I'm angry that everyone (including my husband) made me feel crazy for thinking something was wrong.
My husband wants another baby, and swears that if its another boy, he'll be circumcisized too. I've got news for him, its not happening because I do not want to go through this again. I was against circumcision all along, nobody can give me a good reason to lop off that skin. Its mostly "been done in the family for generations so you just do it" kind of answers and thats not good enough for me anymore. If you didn't need it, you wouldn't be born with it.
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Kerr - posted on 10/12/2013
Hi, I went through this struggle and ultimately had a circ done. It was at 28y/o and I wish it was done earlier! He is probably 17 now and may be snipped! I did not have a bad experience except for a week of discomfort! I am happy to have had it done by a urologist and no complaints from my wife! I seem to blend in better in the locker room where I am now part of the majority! Go for it!
Shena - posted on 06/01/2011
i have 2 boys one is 4 and the other is 18 months and i got them both circumsized. the reason i did was i had a close friend who was male that told me GET THEM CIRCUMSIZED because he never was and he hated it all that extra skin i guess he eventually got his self circumsized and he said he felt a difference instantly he said its cleaner and easier to maintain as a circumsized man. so that is the reason i did it . there are risks to everything out there life is a risk everyday and if i can make something easier for my kids im going to do it they wont remember it they where 1 day old. they wont be traumatized by it. they will be fine.
Merry - posted on 02/13/2011
What it comes down to is circumcision is preventative surgery. It may come in handy later on, if your son was predisposed to have a penis problem, but then again, you never know which baby boy could have a problem later in life, so circumcising is just a pretty big ordeal for such uncertainty.
We chose to circumcise Eric because we thought it would be good that when he is old in a nursing home he wouldn't have to have a nurse cleaning it out, but now I feel that's a bad reason as if you are in that situation, odds are the nurse is wiping your butt as well so dignity is really not in the question anymore!
Another reason we did it is ecause circumcised men have less sensitivity because the protective skin is gone, so personally I know alot of women who wish their man can last longer in bed, but most guys end up finishing before their lady gets all the way. So we thought circumcising would help out his future wife.
But now we learned that some circumcised men actually continue to lose sensitivity slowly their whole life, and some end up not being able to feel pleasure anymore!
The other reasons we circumcised was because of the lower risk of penile cancer, which we found out now that only 130 men die every year from it, but 200 baby boys die every year FROM the circumcision!
So that reason is not valid anymore!
And it lowers the risk of urinary tract infections, but honestly, women get waaaaaay more utis then men and female circumcision is viewed as barbaric, so it's not too realistic to say we do similar thing to boys for less reason.
So then with the risks of the actual circumcision being so high, up to death, we have decided not to circumcise any future sons we have.
I just don't see any good reason to do it!
And neither does any major health organization, because they all say it's a choice for mom and dad to make for personal or religious reasons, but that there isn't enough medical reasons to recommend it for baby boys.
I KNEW this one would be pages long with responses. I have only one thing to add- base your choice on what YOU and YOUR PARTNER decide, not what everyone dictates to you. You are the the only ones who know your children. VERY cute profile pic by the way, what gorgeous boys!!
Rose - posted on 02/13/2011
Tracey, I would tell your son that he is perfect and natural and should stay away from girls who "look at other penis's and would know the difference and judge him, he will probably get an STD from those types of girls anyway"....he should look for a nice girl who will like him for HIM, not what his penis looks like! My boys are not circumsized and neither is my husband and I hope my son's find a nice "wholesome girl" who accept them for who they are, special. I feel bad that your son feels "different" but it's not that out of the ordinary....In my culture, it's more normal to not circumsize. Just tell him he is normal and there is nothing wrong with him.....plus I've heard that people who are circumsized lose 30% of there sensitivity since the tip has no protection and is rubbing on their underwear. This may be a myth, I don't know I obviously don't have a penis, but it makes sense to me. I'm not against circumsizing, I just think it's important to make children feel confident regardless of what they have or don't have and he should find a girlfriend who makes him feel good about himself.
Devonna - posted on 02/05/2011
oh god! that was the scariest moment for me i didnt have my oldest son circumsized so i didnt think of it much till my my husband wanted to have his son circumsized..we had fights about it while i was pregnant..i was hopin it was a girl so ididnt have to make that decision but we found out we were gonna have a boy! oh boy i had fights wit the dad about me going thru the pain of childbirth and i have all the right to say he cant be circumsized! haha then when baby was born the nurse ask me if he will be circumsized i said no...my husband cried oh dear i didnt know how much this meant to him sooo..i told the nurses i change my mind he can be circumsized...it was scary for me because i didnt want baby to be in pain. Whew! i hope next baby is a girl this time :)
User - posted on 02/05/2011
Yes I did! my son is now 2 1/2 years old. I had a pleasant experience. He didn't have any health problems. However, I have many friends who debate on this issue.Some have done it and some have not. I really do think it's a personal preference. If I had another son I would also have him circumsized.
Rose - posted on 02/04/2011
I always find it funny that people say boys will feel "wierd" if they are not circumsized.....honestly I have NEVER met a man that was embarassed about their penis, whether they were or weren't circumsized. Every man will tell you that they have the best one so I don't think that should factor into your decision.
My husband isn't circumsized and I never thought it was wierd because I fell in love with him and not just "that" part of him....until later of course! ;)
Maribel - posted on 02/04/2011
My mother choose not to have it done on my brother and he said he would not do it now because of the pain but that wished she did. I guess he was teased as a child and had a few incidents that the skin tore and had to be brought in to the hospital he is an adult.
Samantha - posted on 02/04/2011
I have had all 3 of my boys done. I don't know to many guys that hasn't had it done. I always heard if you don't when they get older, they will have problems. But thats just hear say. And if I have any more boys, they will be done as well. I have had no problems with my boys being circumcised, all went well.
Merry - posted on 02/04/2011
I agree Kate, erics actual circ was quite painless, I know cuz I was looking into his eyes the whole time!
But afterwords, who knows!
Babies cry, and odds are you won't assume it's because they feel a burning in their penis, or sharp pains when they pee, or move.
The real pain came when it re attached..........
Emma - posted on 02/03/2011
NO! and i was adiment it was going to be done! my husband said over his dead body and we argued for a while i researched everything! i also spoke to alot of people! you cannot tell me having a baby circumsised isnt painful what a load of shit!! seriously have u heard a baby thats just had half of their little doodle removed? i suggest you do before u make the decision! (90 percent of doctors will NOT do this anymore theres absolutely no benefits from it UNLESS your child has a disability and will possibly be in care one day then i believe its beneficial!!
Alecia - posted on 02/03/2011
i have a daughter and did not have her circumsized, and i certianly wont do it to any sons we might have. my hubby is the only man ive been with thats intact, but when its hard u cant even tell the difference (except when u give handjobs...u dnt need lotion cuz the skin moves!! :p ). so why would u worry what girls think? at first girls will only see it hard! LOL but seriously, its not cleaner and u never pull the skin back...it will do that on its own after a couple years. i believe its there for a reason and should remain so, unless medically necessary. u want to do that to ur kid? doesnt matter to me, but i would never do it to any of my kids.
Kristie - posted on 02/03/2011
Yes I did and my son is 9 now. I have heard of adults getting infection there and they have to have it done then. I would rather have it done when they r babies as to adults (less healing time when they r babies). Thanks hope that helps with your decision.
Nicole - posted on 02/02/2011
No. my husband isnt circumsized. my mother comes from a Jewish family and my grandmother couldnt understand why i didnt do it as she feels its unhygienic and gives women cancer... My husband washes his like anyone else would was behind their ears etc.. just a part of the bath/shower routine. he has never had a problem. i had cervical cancer, but that was before i met my husband and it has been clear for two years now.. i honestly dont think there is any fact in the cancer statement. HTH xx
Amanda - posted on 02/02/2011
I had mine done at 6 weeks and it was a cap as well not traumatic at all and when they are younger it doesnt hurt as much as when they get older cause my brothers did it late and it hurt. So you can choose or let them choose for themselves.
Tracy - posted on 02/02/2011
my son is 15, I chose not to because my husband isnt, but now because of how others talk and make fun of boys who arent he now wants it done. I feel so bad for him now, none of his friends know this but now I am having a hard time wondering if I did the right thing. It is sad that he wants this done, not for himself really, but for the fear of what he thinks people will say, and how girls will think when he is sexually active. Has anyone else gone through this? If so, please help
Isobel - posted on 02/02/2011
My boyfriend told me the other day if we had a boy he would fight tooth and nail to have him circumcised...we will not be having any children together.
I totally understand that women who choose to circumcise believe that they are doing the best for their child....I just don't think that it's their RIGHT to remove a healthy functioning part of a baby's body because it'll look better...I'm sure there are plenty of men out their who would believe that a woman's privates would look prettier without a clitoris...I don't know about you, but I'm happy to still have mine ;)
I had my son circumcised and I regret it. If I ever have another boy, he will remain intact. It may be a rare case, but he had a complication where basically, his cut skin had reattached itself too high, formed a pocket and for the first two years of my son's life, this pocket collected dead skin, sweat, urine....basically made a giant pimple and then had to be pried open with the stick end of one of those long qtips. I don't know who I was more upset with...myself, for being the one who decided to have him circumcised? Or the pediatrician, who, every time I'd point it out to him (the white spot on his penis) he'd tell me how "Oh that's ok, that's normal." I actually took him to a different pediatrician and was told the same thing. When our first doc retired, his replacement finally LISTENED to me at the 2 year checkup. It wasn't pretty what he had to do and like I said, if I ever have another boy, there's no way in hell I'd alter him.
And by the way, infants don't sleep through the procedure, no matter what you think. They're in a form of shock. Where's Loureen??? She knows all about this stuff and has some great links. LOUREEEEEENN!!!!! LOL
I'm currently pregnant and don't plan on circumcising if we have a boy. I've researched a ton and found no benefits to it. Some boys may have issues down the road, but it's usually due to not caring for an intact penis properly (you should never force the skin back). If you don't circumcise then definitely research how to care for your son properly.
Felicia - posted on 02/01/2011
i had all 5 of my boys done just because ive heard that things can get very unclean in that area and it was advised to me as being the best for them. but to each there own my sister n law didnt do her sons and when he was 13 he opeted to get it and it was way harder on him then it would of been if he were a baby so up to you. good luck with ur decision
Anthea - posted on 01/31/2011
Yes, at the age of 3 years, but only because he had a narrow foreskin that lead to him having an infection in his penis. It was very painful, but it was good for the health of my boy. If it is a matter of life or death I would recommend it to anyone.
Debbie - posted on 01/31/2011
what a question to create conversation!! Yes, I did with my son, all the males in our family our circumsized. Now, if I had known of any bad experience, I might of been leary!
I did know of a man who had it done later in life because he hated all the infections he had gotten his whole life but from what I hear, that is not the norm.
Melissa - posted on 01/31/2011
Niether of my sons is circumcised and I debated. Because there are pros and cons of both I had a hard time deciding. My biggest worry was that there would be locker room issues or whether or not girls have a problem with that. My husband is circumcised and I didn't know anyone who wasn't so I couldn't ask. That's not really a topic that comes up with the guys I know! lol
Ultimately I decided not to because when they are older they can still have it done if they want it. But the can't put it back. :)
Bharti - posted on 01/31/2011
nobody gave me a good enough reason to either get or not get my son circumsized, so i didn't get my older son, who is now 18, circumsized. but i heard differently with my younger son, who is now 16, so i got my younger one circumsized. i think getting it 'done' helps keep the area clean more easily than when not 'done'. i didn't have any bad experiences with either.
Tiffany - posted on 01/30/2011
I got my son done, he was preemie and had to wait until he was a year old but he came through the surgery fine. They have done studies and for the post part when they are circumcized there is less risk of infection like a yeast infection(boys gets it too).
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