Difficult daughter relationship

Sue - posted on 09/17/2016 ( 3 moms have responded )

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My 23 year old daughter and I seem to be at each other all the time. It is creating a terribly uncomfortable atmosphere in our home. I think we both feel that nothing we do is good enough for the other. I always back down to keep the peace but feel that each time I do this I lose more respect. I am a housewife and she is an academic genius studying at the moment. I get the impression that I'm seen as nothing more than the maid. Am I alone? Is this normal? Can it be fixed while she still lives at home?

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Michelle - posted on 09/18/2016

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When you have an adult child still living at home it's advisable to have a contract signed between the 2 of you.
In this contract cover things like housework, bills, shopping and even curfews. This way both of you can see in black and white what is expected. If she doesn't want to sign it or agree to your rules while living in your house then maybe it's time she moved out. She's 23 and well and truly old enough to support herself. That way she won't have to live by any rules and she would have to do all her own cleaning.

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Dove - posted on 09/18/2016

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Agree w/ the other ladies. A rental agreement written up detailing her rights and responsibilities to continue living in your home or she can find alternate living arrangements.

Ev - posted on 09/18/2016

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I totally agree with Michelle. She needs to learn that she is in your house and should be respecting you because you are her mother and she has a place to stay.

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