Brooke - posted on 01/16/2010 ( 11 moms have responded )
ok, when my finace & i found out we were pregnant, i was in honduras on a mission trip. when i got a flight back to his house, i found out i wasn't welcome there, in fact his mom & step - dad shouted at us until about 2 in the morning, and basically kicked us out. they wanted him to leave me, but my fiance wasn't about to and that made them reallly mad, so we had to go to his aunt's house for a few days til it blew over. After that, we got a marriage license in the courthouse, but they weren't even happy with that and wouldn't let us share a room in their house until we had an official blessing by a pastor. Anyway, it was one of the worst weeks of my life, suffering not only from the stress of the situation but the fact that made it so much harder than it needed to be. We have since moved across the country to live near my folks, & have an apartment here. My baby is due in about a week. I have tried to forgive his parents, but its really hard to think especially of his step- dad being around the baby - and my husband just told me yesterday the whole family is planning on coming for a weekend after the baby is born and staying at our place. I can tolerate the thought of his mother & sisters here, but not of his step-dad, who is a very disagreeable and angry man. I don't want my child ever calling him grandpa, or even being around him, but i don't want to break off relations with his mom, because his mom is all my husband has left, and she only treated us the way she did because she was influenced by her husband. How can i make his stepdad understand that he is not welcome at my house without causing a huge problem?