Luv My - posted on 08/18/2013 ( 12 moms have responded )
I have a dilemma with an upcoming family function. My 15 year old daughter was invited to go on vacation with her best friend's family and I am planning a surprise 75th birthday party for her Grandmother smack dab in the middle of that vacation. The invitations have already gone out so the party cannot be changed. It will be about 35 family and friends at a restaurant. Should I allow my daughter to miss this event to go on vacation with her friend or force her to attend this family event? She has suggested that if I let her go on vacation she could spend another day with her grandmother instead. She is very upset and is saying that the only reason I want her there is to save face. It is true that I do want all my children there, but I want her to realize the importance of family obligations. Am I being too unreasonable by requiring her to attend the party and forego the vacation?