Kammie - posted on 10/02/2015 ( 11 moms have responded )
Hi all! I'm a newbie so just introducing myself. I have two teens (boy, 16; girl, 15) and a soon-to-be (boy, 12), so I guess you could say I have my hands full. My husband passed away several years ago fighting in Afghanistan and, consequently, I'm now on my own raising these kids.
In spite of his military background, Randy was a pussycat when it came to the children so I guess -- by default -- actual discipline has always fallen on me. That being said, my husband had quite a loud voice and (when he was home) it was usually enough to keep the kids' backsides largely untouched. However, now, as a single parent of three in what I'm sure all of you can identify as the "rebellious stage," I've had to amp up the severity and frequency of corporal punishment.
Do I take some sadistic satisfaction in it? No. Am I a fetishist? No. (At least not in that arena. lol) But there are times when extreme misbehavior on the part of the kids will necessitate physical correction to the part of the body best suited to receive it.
There are a lot of legitimate arguments for and against spanking. I have employed (and still do) other forms of discipline. However, as a working mom whose job doesn't necessarily end when I leave the office, I've found grounding impossible to enforce and privilege revocation unsustainable. Spanking resolves the matter quickly, efficiently, and with no hard feelings. The kids don't care for it, but punishment is not supposed to be liked. Point is they accept it and there is plenty of motherly love available after the fact.
Is it wrong? Am I right? Who in the hell knows. They never sent me the manual. lol.