Discipline advice for my 6 year old son?

Sarah - posted on 03/28/2016 ( 2 moms have responded )

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Hello! I was just hoping to gain a bit of advice on the matter of disciplining my 6 year old son. He is extremely intelligent, imaginative and inquisitive. Therefore, when push comes to shove, he is extremely argumentative, and stubborn. I feel as though I've tried everything....Time-outs are very ineffective, because he just sits there and day dreams...I've even caught him playing pretend with his fingers! ( He was making them have a conversation). I've tried taking away privleges, but again, he doesnt need them to keep himself occupied. I've tried making him do extra chores, but that is a no go also. And I DO NOT spank. Any advice? Thanks!!

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Dove - posted on 03/28/2016

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I do not think I've 'won' an argument w/ my son in his entire 8 years of life. lol Seriously... this boy is SOOO stubborn and has a wicked temper. Drives me nuts... but the less I engage in the argument... the better for both of us. He's got it in his head the way life 'should' be and woe be to anyone who tries to get him to see differently. I'll tell him the way it is a couple of times, but then I let him think whatever he is going to think... cuz he'll do that anyway.

Wanting to argue... disengage. Simply being stubborn... ignore as well.

Now... if he is DOING things he is not supposed to be doing or NOT doing things he is supposed to be doing... that obviously needs addressed, but I do not seek to punish the stubbornness or argumentativeness out of my children... cuz that's a losing battle every time.

Sarah - posted on 03/28/2016

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Don't engage. If his behavior that frustrate you the most is his stubbornness and arguing; nip it. Tell him you are in charge and he will do as you say. If you are paying attention to his behavior during time out, you are negating it's purpose. Have him sit with his face to the wall and sit on his hands. There must be something he really likes to do? That's where I'd start, whether it is TV, certain toys, if he doesn't obey, he loses the privilege. Or, he is at an age where you can make him sit and practice writing, my mom used to do this to me and my sisters.

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