Since toddlers struggle to communicate their intense emotions even those proficient in language will have a tantrum. I really don't mind my kids expressing their emotions. Tantrums don't really bother me- whining gets me though! When they were little and threw a tantrum I acknowledged the emotion, the reason for the emotion, and explained my position. Example, "I see you are very upset because you want that lolipop but lolipops are bad for your teeth and have too much sugar. Sorry but I won't buy you the lollipop." If it escelates or is really loud to begin with I have been known to leave my shopping cart in the middle of the store, take the child to a grassy area of the parking lot where she can blow off some steam for a minute or two, tell her we are going home because I can't pay for groceries and deal with her screaming at the same time. If it happens at home I do the same thing let her know I understand that she feels frustrated but she can't have her way right now for whatever reason and move her to a safe location while going about my business. My older daughter never threw a lot of tantrums, my younger daughter throws them more but still infrequently so I could be lucky. Like I said, I hate whining,. WHen they whine I just tell them I don't understand whining and when they are finished they can come back and talk to me in a normal voice.
CHRISTINA - posted on 04/08/2009 ( 22 moms have responded )
My Babies are turning one next week, and they are already starting to act like spoiled bratz. They will throw themselves to the floor and kick whenever we dont give them something they want. How can we discipline them, how can we teach a baby?