Disciplining 14 month old....HELP! Open to ALL opinions!

Cheyanna - posted on 11/04/2015 ( 3 moms have responded )

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So, I have a 14 month old baby boy named Chandler. He does not listen to me at all. He likes to stick his fingers in the VCR, moving the coffee table we have in front of the VCR (he listens when i ask him to put it back but, continues to do so), smack people, biting, throw toys, throw remotes, get stuff he knows he isn't supposed to have off of the sofa and throw them, and a lot more! I have tried all of the basics and nothing seems to be working...we've done timeouts for a minute, saying no, making noises to scare him, keeping things out of his reach, tapping his fingers, tapping his butt (he cries then waits until i'm not looking and goes right back to it), getting onto his level and explaining to him what he's doing wrong, and anything else family members have recommended....I am officially out of ideas and he will not listen to me, my dad, or my mom. Please, please, please if you have ANY ideas let me know I am open to anything you've got!!

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Dove - posted on 11/04/2015

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They don't always listen... you just have to keep doing it over and over again anyway. He WILL learn... I promise. ♥

Dove - posted on 11/04/2015

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He is one... barely. He's still pretty much a baby and is acting 100% normal. You need to make sure you child proof your house as much as possible. You discipline a young toddler by distracting them from things they can not have, redirecting them to things they can have, and teaching them how to behave (vs 'punishing' them for misbehavior). And yes... you will have to repeat this over and over and over and over again. It doesn't mean it's not working. It means your toddler is testing to see if what was a 'no no' 5 minutes ago is still a 'no no' now. It takes a lot of time and a lot of patience.

Time out is typically not something to try until closer to 2 years old. Scaring him or hitting him or trying to reason w/ him... is either cruel or pointless.

For hitting... firmly (but gentle enough to not hurt) grab his hand and tell him 'no hitting, be gentle' and then you SHOW him what gentle is by stroking your cheek w/ his hand. It takes time and consistency, but it works and works well.

All of my toddlers were furniture movers and climbers. As long as they aren't destroying things or endangering themselves... there's no harm in it. They are learning and exploring. If you really don't want him moving furniture around... take him somewhere that he CAN move things around and climb on them.

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Cheyanna - posted on 11/04/2015

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We've tried redirecting but, he still doesn't listen....thank you for the advice i will have to try some of your suggestions!

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