disciplining 3yr old,daughter

Nomvula - posted on 08/21/2013 ( 6 moms have responded )

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Im single mom of 2 kids. Im really finding it difficult to discipline my daughter, throws bad tantrum, gets really out of control .Im working mom, i have full time helper till end of Dec. She goes to pre-school. Pls help

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Sarah - posted on 08/21/2013

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I find with girls there is more drama then with boys in general. Sometimes giving an extra hug does the trick and sometimes not playing into the drama and ignoring is best. Some kids are going to be more drama then others. Another good book is called Love and Logic....there is one that is designed for toddlers and one for older kids. It talks about having empathy but not sympathy. I think this is key. When people show sympathy kids learn that drama is away they can get things. When people show empathy the kid's feelings are acknowledged but that does not mean they are going to get what they want.

Sarah - posted on 08/21/2013

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Here is what I do with my kids. Tantrums are usually ignored. If you are following me around crying then you get put in one spot.....with my older kids a time out spot worked good. With my youngest the crib works the best. When you are done with the tantrum then you can get up and come join us. For the ones that I put on the time out spot the rule was if you are screaming for attention (not just crying) then you are put into your room/bed until you are ready to stop the screaming. Also watch for triggers that may cause a tantrum.....being tired or hungry. If they are tired or hungry then try to fix that problem as that will lessen the tantrums.

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Nomvula - posted on 08/21/2013

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Wow. That's an interesting way of looking at thi, gs will make sure i get the book. Thank you so much.

Nomvula - posted on 08/21/2013

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Thanx Im bit lost with my daughter. Cos i don't recall having such dramas with my son. Her teachers. Said @ school she's excelling, but she's worried about her emotional she's development. I've gone out trying to understand 5 Languages of Love. Spending time with her,etc

Nomvula - posted on 08/21/2013

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Hi Sarah. Ignore her going which helps sometimes. Thinking or naughty corner doesn't work.

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