Disrespect......It needs to stop!

Heather - posted on 02/21/2013 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I have to daughters 14 and 12, and I really need some advice on what works. I am a disabled, single mother and their dad pops in and out of their life when he feels like it. They are defiant, rude, and they do what they want. I do what I can but they constantly belittle my actions and they are never happy. I have tried taking stuff away but it doesn't work. Every adult in their life gets treated like crap and no matter what is said they always have something rude to say, with an attitude, and they do what they want anyway. Not to mention that they constantly curse and are very promiscuous. I am at the end of my rope. I have thought about the police department but I don't want to get the state involved. The fact of the matter is that I think they need to be scared straight and see exactly what they have so they don't take what I am able to do for granted. So if anyone has any advice it would be greatly appreciated.

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Laura - posted on 02/21/2013

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Is there a scared straight program in your city? Like I said, from my own childhood experience - drugs, alcohol and unprotected sex are coming, sweetheart. Please get some help before they make your health worse .... you cannot raise their children. xo

Laura - posted on 02/21/2013

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Even though they are probably acting out because their father more or less abandoned them it is not fair to you. If you don't mind me asking, what have you tried? I know from experience that having daddy issues will change a child into a selfish, scared individual with poor self-esteem who will do anything for attention - good or bad. I think a strong, positive, RELIABLE male role model will help. Even a family member that you trust completely or call your local big brother/big sister foundation. I hope this helps. Good Luck.

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Heather - posted on 02/22/2013

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That's what Im looking to the police for, hopefully they can point me in the right direction. I am not ready to be a grandmother!

Heather - posted on 02/21/2013

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I have tried my own discipline and it never works. I have taken things away and it doesnt matter. I will try the big brother/big sister avenue thats one i have not yet tried, thanks! I have had a boyfriend for 2 years and he has tried to be reliable but my girls are very materialistic and if they dont get what they want they get mouthy and rude. the lack of respect has to change because it just hurts when no one wants to be around cuz I can't control my kids and better yet my kids cant be respectful of anything and can't do what they are asked to without a fight.

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