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I am a first time mom and my mil watches my daughter full-time. I have to start off by saying that my mil is very sweet, non-judgemental and loves my daughter to pieces. My only problem with her is that she doesn't listen to things I ask her to do. She will kindly reply with an okay, no problem or sure. However, she always ends up doing things her way. At times, I wish I could put my daughter in daycare or quit my job. However, neither is an option at this time. The types of things I ask my mil to do seem quite simple to me, but she always does the opposite. For example,
No junk food
Daily green smoothies
Daily naps in bed, not arms
No tv for more than an hour or two
Read to her every day
Make sure she falls asleep in bed, not arms
Btw, we pay her to watch our daughter.
Recently, I took time off if work to start potty training her. I had been at it a week 24/7. My daughter was doing great. We asked mil to babysit for a date night . She was I instructed to keep up with the training and only put a diaper right before bed. Well, we got home around 11pm. She was in the Nursury with my daughter watching cartoons. My daughter was in her arms, wearing a soaked diaper. I feel so bad because I pretty much raised my voice and asked her the following things in a very aggressive tone. Why is the tv on? Why is she not in her bed? Why is she in your arms ? Why is her diaper wet? I reminded her of all the work I had been putting into potty training her and told her that I felt she was not listening to me and I needed her to be on the same page. My daughter had been in her diaper for over 3 hours!!!!! I only wanted her to be in right before bed. Anyway, I overreacted big time and she did not deserve it. I know she is doing her very best. She just doesn't listen to me and basically tells what I want to hear and does something completely different. Anyway, I am the worst daughter in law ever and I feel so bad. I wish my husband would be the "bad" guy sometimes, but he is way to chill about things. Nothing phases him. The worst part about me losing it is that my mil just kept saying sorry. I felt like such a bully because it is hard to get a reaction out of her.