Worried - posted on 01/14/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )
This is a bit long or not right location but I need some feedback so here goes.
~I moved my 14 y/o in with us (step mom and 4 y/o daughter) 2.6 years ago, her mom was in a bad place-abusive and drug addicted relationship.
~Child had little to no contact for almost a year, the following year all communication had brought strife and sadness to her.
~Mom got out of situation and is talking with child now, I even flew her out and paid for visit (gave money) for mom to see the kid. But that bit me in the behind, they commiserated about her not being happy here and how strict we are. We have rules and guidelines in the house, demand respect and passing grades in school. Such a hard existence.
Now all we get from the kid is disrespect (back talk, anger and resentment), hurtful statements and writings how we are treating her bad, she is not happy and wants to go and live with her mom now.
~Child says we are "not" allowing her to see her mom, lives out of state. Which is not the case, I cannot enable her mother any further as all in her life continue to do.
~Her mom has no job, no money, no home (is a dependent of her own mom for residence, car and money. Unable to provide the basics for a young girl.
How do I/we continue?? Her attitude is starting to take a toll on the entire household. We just want harmony in the home.