Disrespectful boys

Xtin - posted on 02/15/2016 ( 6 moms have responded )

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My boy turned 13 and he changed a lot. From a straight A student to just getting by. He asserts his independence and told me to not push him academically, piano or sports. He became very aggressive and the thing is I have another boy age 9. Whatever he sees from him and whatever he hears from him , he mimics them. Very tough to manage both of them. My husband and myself aren't always on the same page. He is the controlling character. A lot of negative energy circulating in the household. I am becoming so impatient as well. Please help. Thank you so much. Xtin

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Jodi - posted on 02/15/2016

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"He asserts his independence and told me to not push him academically, piano or sports"

So at what point did he become the parent? You need to step up and have consequences in place for his choices. I'm sorry, but you should set clearly defined expectations for him. He has no business telling YOU what it will be like. YOU tell HIM what you expect of him, and make it clear what it looks like if he chooses to do otherwise.

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Strong - posted on 02/19/2016

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Hey! It's great to know that you found the resource helpful. I'm praying for your family. Much love! :)

Xtin - posted on 02/17/2016

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Hi Strong Wave,

Your post is very well appreciated. The link is very
informative and helpful. Indeed, self-evaluation on my part is extremely significant because it is the core of how I mould my boys.
Control is the worst tool in raising a teen.
My boys are well read and well informed. They are smart to know if their parents are doing the right thing....and they challenge authority sometimes.

I will surely call Focus on the family....a great resource.
Again, thank you.

Blessings to you!

Strong - posted on 02/16/2016

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I understand how exhausted you must be! I’ve heard that Focus on the Family offers free counseling and I think you may find it helpful to speak with one of the counselors about your boys. They may be in a better position to offer support. Here’s a link if you think it might be useful -- http://bit.ly/1SRHmYJ. *Prayers. Love. Hugs*

Dove - posted on 02/16/2016

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He wants to be independent? Tell him to get a job and pay rent.... or he can keep doing his best in his school work because for a child... school IS their job.

He's aggressive in what way? If he ever physically assaults you... call the police. Let him know ahead of time that assault in the home is not an option.

Raye - posted on 02/16/2016

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You and your husband need to get on the same page. There should not be all the negativity, but there does need to be firm rules and consistent consequences... which the child will not be happy about, but will help him grow into a responsible adult. Jodi is right, you are the parent and need to lay down the law to your kids to get them to straighten out.

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