Kathleen - posted on 07/08/2014 ( 6 moms have responded )
My 10-year old son is really struggling right now. He is becoming increasingly disrespectful to the people who take care of him and insistent that, in his words, "everyone treats him like a pile of poo," so we don't deserve his respect. When he lashes out, he gets punished (chores usually), and says "See, that just proves my point. You're treating me like a slave." I think one of the issues is that he's being asked to take on more responsibilities around the house, consistent with his age, and he has actually said that those things are my job, as his mom, and I'm being a bad mom by, for example, not folding his laundry anymore now that he can do it himself. He gets allowance for the chores that help everyone (cleaning off the table), and is expected to keep his own room clean, but he has PLENTY of free time and freedom to play how and when he wants. The sense of entitlement, disrespect, and "poor me" act are throwing off the whole family's happiness. Any ideas how to handle this?