Pam - posted on 09/19/2012 ( 9 moms have responded )
So...my ex-husband calls 30 minutes before he is supposed to pick up our children for his Tuesday visit to tell me that he "has to switch tonight for tomorrow night". I am a full time student and have class on Tuesday evenings so I had to arrange for a sitter at the last minute but never agreed to switching nights as I did not get to see them at all on Tuesday night....Wednesday night is our time! He informed our 4 year old and 13 year old that he was picking them up tonight (Wed) without consulting me and I told him that unless he was respectful of me, my willingness to do the same would end. I also told him that they needed to be home by 7:45 as our daughter is not getting enough sleep and it's a school night. So.....he drops them off at 8:15 with my unbathed daughter almost sleeping and I tell him that she was exhausted and I was not happy about it because I didn't have to let him see them tonight in the first place. To which he replied with a "Oh Shut Up!".......IN FRONT OF BOTH KIDS! I immediately told him to get out of my house which he refused to do after repeating it a dozen times. My daughter is confused and upset as is my son. He then sends me a text that states....."if you have a problem with me, fine. But NOT in front of our kids". I responded with "You tell me to shut up in front of our kids and I am the one with the problem? You are not longer welcome to come in to my home. I will bring them to the driveway to meet you at pick-up times." I'm not sure I did the right thing and I do not want to continue this debate as this is exactly what he wants......to continually engage me. HELP!!!