Disrespectful out of control Son at the age of 14

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Can someone please tell me where I can send my son any place once a lot of money I can't afford it he needs a lockdown facility he brings everything under the Sun in my house from girls Runaways Robbies thieves everything. Trying to save him from himself he won't listen very angry his father they have anything to do with them and they were the best of friends

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 10/22/2015

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LMAO. Ok so, because the boy wasn't BEAT enough as a small child...good grief.

FYI, I'm a HUGE disciplinarian. I, however, prefer to address a comprehending child as a PERSON, rather than a vessel for abuse. Since you have determined that the ONLY way to get through to your kid is by putting him in juvenile prison (for no other reason than you can't control him), then, as I said, YOU are the one claiming to be retired LEO...you should have the sources.

BTW...no judge will order a lockdown facility unless the kid is committing crimes and being prosecuted...They have to have a history. Furthermore, most are turning away from the extreme punishment as they realize that it has no intrinsic value in creating a contributing member of society.

Oh, and another BTW...My husband NEVER raised a hand to our boys, but he ALWAYS had expectations in place for their behaviour, as did I. Corporal punishment stopped when they could understand the concept of actions and consequences...around the age of 2. Kids get a sense of entitlement by being given everything under the sun and not being held to consistent consequences. Neither of my kids did (well, not much, but the 18 YO is learning the hard way...if you want it, WORK for it...)

Who's in control, anyway? When my kids dragged home (as you put it "everything under the sun (sic), girls, runaways, robbies (not sure what that is....unless its some strange slang), I didn't have to allow them IN TO MY HOME. Not that my kids dragged home the scum of the earth, but...

Oh well. You're not looking for constructive advice, you're looking for validation for sticking your kid in a penitentiary so that you can wash your hands of him.

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 10/22/2015

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Oh, look...another person who didn't get the validation that they wanted, so they deleted their responses and ran...

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 10/22/2015

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Well pardon us for intruding. Good grief. You leave a very cryptic, run on post, and expect us to know EVERYTHING???

What HAVE you tried? What consequences have you worked with, and how long have you attempted to enforce them before throwing up your hands and deciding that a lockdown facility is what is best?

Speaking of...if you ARE retired from a LEO career, wouldn't you already HAVE sources for such penitentiaries for kids?

Ev - posted on 10/22/2015

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I have to agree with Shawnn on this one. What have you done to get his attention to his actions and what steps have you taken to deliver consequences for said actions?

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 10/22/2015

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Well...a lockdown facility seems a bit extreme, don't you think? What OTHER methods have you tried? Counseling? Consequences? DISCIPLINE????

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