Disrespectful teenage boys

Shellie - posted on 03/07/2014 ( 2 moms have responded )




I have a 15 and 17 year old. I love these guys to death but sometimes, i really hate them. There are times that they talk to me in such a manner that I want to scream. In fact this morning on our way to school, I lost it completely. This is after week after week of being late to work because they could not be ready by 7:15. I tried to explain to them that if they could just compromise with me and be ready 10 minutes earlier each day, i would not be late. I tried to explain as well, that if it were any other employee, that person would most likely lose their job eventually. I manage to always get them to school on time, why cant they help me by getting up just a little bit earlier each day. The talk turned into a fight ending with my youngest son telling me to "shut the F*** up". That's when i lost it. I pulled over in the school parking lot in front of their friends and jumped out of the car and ran around to his side. He jumped out and ran as fast as he could with me standing their looking like a crazy person yelling my lungs out.

I drove the rest of the way to work thinking "what the heck can i do to make this stop"? How on earth did my kids learn to be so disrespectful? I felt so ashamed and hurt and upset and really upset at myself that i lost control. It was a good thing that kid ran away because, what would I have done to him? I wanted to pull him out by his hair and beat his butt and I DIDN"T care who saw.

After calming down, i joined this support group. Hopefully the best thing I have done in awhile. I read a lot of blogs during my lunch hour and by god, i feel better. I am not the ONLY one,

With all due respect to everyone on this, i felt like there is hope and there are worse situations out there. It is up to us parents to be a good example to our kids. Whether our kids appreciate it or not right now, they will someday. Stay FIRM and do not let them walk all over you. Set ground rules and have leverage at all times. Something they have to earn back. NO KID should talk to their parents with such disrespect no matter what, and I am not going to let mine do it and get away with it. They are growing into young men and they need to learn how to respect women and all adults.
Thanks for listening :)


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Jodi - posted on 03/07/2014




Why are you still taking them to school? Are they not old enough to be getting there themselves? Just clarifying.

With regard to them speaking to you like that, I hope you've told them that you are not their maid and it is time for them to do things for themselves.....and then stop doing for them.

Kimberly - posted on 03/07/2014




It may not be much help but I find my kids are mist responsive to silence. When you don't say anything, don't react at all when they expect you to freak- that gets their attention and at least in my situation (twin 11 year old girls) I gain their respect and kindness.

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