distant and jelous husband

Marita - posted on 02/10/2014 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My husband has recently been more distant lately because of the new baby and says he is jelous because of all the attention the baby gets. We don't have much of a relationship anymore and he doesn't spend quality time with the baby nor I, then gets mad about it. I'm lost and need advice. Thank you

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Marita - posted on 02/11/2014

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Hello, thank you for the advice ladies. I will try to spend more quality adult time with the hubby because he probably just feels left out. I do forget I'm in mommy mode most of the time and not being a better wife to him. Wish me luck, I know things will get better. Thank you!!

Jodi - posted on 02/10/2014

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OK, first up, your husband is being really immature if he is just saying he is jealous and getting mad. Honestly, he needs to man up and work WITH you on resolving what he is unhappy about rather than just acting like a spoiled little boy.

Having said that, he DOES have a point if you are not spending any quality time with him without the baby. The two of you need to develop a strategy to MAKE time with each other, just adult time. It is really important for your relationship. Find a way to have a date night, even if the date has to take place at home!

Dorothy - posted on 02/10/2014

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He need to try in understand that your baby need you in he also need to understand that you and him and the baby are a family know and you need his love and support. Be there for your baby! how he feel will pass.

Andrea - posted on 02/10/2014

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My husband went through this with all 3 of our kids.. They are not so much jealous as feeling unneeded or unwanted.. As we as moms tend to spend more time worrying about baby and if the baby is ok, need a diaper change, needs fed ect... So during afternoon nap time during the week { as my hubby works nights} we could have some one on one time where we could just talk or focus on us for an 1 to 2 hours. on the weekends now that kids are older we get a good 3 hours before we go to bed to just spend time watching a movie or talking.. Which did help a lot, he started to see that I was trying to show him he was important to both myself and baby.. He then began to want to spend time with both of us.. It got better with each baby, but some times we forget to come out of mom mode and go in to wife mode and friend mode for our husbands... I know I did at first, now I have a pretty good balance with everything... Hope this is helpful in some way.. Take Care and Best Wishes... It gets better just takes time for everyone to adjust...

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