distructive kids

Amy Louise - posted on 08/30/2014 ( 2 moms have responded )

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hi everyone im a single mum to my 3year old oliver he very hyper and very distructive with his toys when hes told hes like I will be a good boy now and then hes at it again 5mins after he dosent sleep at night good he kicks the bed with his legs wen im trying to get him to sleep he dosent sit still anytime of the day he dosent eat much at all he hits and pushes his sister that's 7 and got cerebral palsy over and they flight all the time he headbuts me all the time and thinks it funny I just don't no what to do anymore I no deep down hes got something wrong with him but don't no what I need to do xx

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Paige - posted on 08/30/2014

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Hi Amy,
The first thing I'd do is check his sugar/carb intake, because diet has a lot to do with how much energy kids have. You might want to read Timothy Brantley's "The Cure" on this, which is very informative and easy to read. One of the most simple solutions he offers is to drink water - lots of clean, pure water instead of fruit juices (esp. those that are from concentrate). Feed him fresh fruit and vegetables as much as possible.

As for his behaviour, the first thing to do is provide a calm and quiet environment completely devoid of anger or frustration (I know, I feel your frustration already and I understand, but you can reverse it!). Pray first thing every morning and ask God to help you be a sweet and loving mom - with no anger. Always speak to him calmly because high-energy kids feed on our frustration. The angrier we get as parents, the more frustrated our kids get, and the more they act out. We need to control the environment first by controlling ourselves. Don't react to his tantrums. If you don't believe in spanking, simply walk away from him and never ever give him what he wants (when he's in that state). Reward him when he's calm (not with sugar!). Spend time playing with him, building positive play habits, dancing around together, and singing. These things will express his energy in a positive way, binding his heart to yours. Include your daughter in these things, too, so he can build a respectful relationship with her.

Invite your son to "serve" his sister, helping in the kitchen, bringing her food/water, getting a book he'd like you to read. Involve him in daily chores so he feels productive and valued (and to use up his energy) and praise him highly and joyfully when he is successful. If he can't handle something, react with patience, giving him a chance to succeed the second time. Don't worry about spills (expect them, and smile when it happens). I'm going to be blunt here and say that if my son head-butted me, I would not tolerate it. At the very least, give him a firm "no" and every time he does it, push him into a sit (calmly, without anger) and walk away. If you give in just once, you've effectively trained him to do it again.

The good news is that the more time you spend training and teaching him now, the less work you'll have later. You'll build positive habits in him that will last a lifetime and bless you as you age. Just remember - God is pleased by your love for him, by your willingness to sacrifice your time and energy for your son's good. He will bless your efforts and your heart. Keep up the good fight! And take it from me - my boys are now far more independent and all the hard work and tears of the past were worth every minute! Have hope, be encouraged.

Paige

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Amy Louise - posted on 08/30/2014

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thank you so much u have helped me just bye sending me that means a lot and my lil boy only eats fruit and vegetables its other stuff I cant get him to eat and he can be so loving sometimes but most of the time hes not and he dose get a slap if he needs one but he thinks its funny if I slap him when I tell him of he thinks funny I just don't no weather im doing my job right anymore I read to him I play with him I take him on holiday and on days out and all kinds of stuff I love him and tell him I love him all the time kiss him hes just way to hyper hes like billy wiz and hes very clever aswell for his age

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