divorce, remarriage and surname change

Nadia - posted on 01/20/2014 ( 3 moms have responded )

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Hi Ladies(",)
Would just like to know how to handle the situation of changing my child's surname when I remarry? He is seven years old and wants and already has the idea of having the same surname as I do with my husband to be "because we are going to be a family" he says. It's so difficult and saddening for me as his mother to hear what he as a seven year old boys expectations are and not knowing how to handle or explain..My son has excepted my fiance of 2years as his dad because he has not seen or heard of his biological father my ex-husband for almost 6years..what can I do in this regard?

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Jodi - posted on 01/20/2014

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You let him know that children don't change their name when mummies and daddies get married, only the mummy has that choice. If it really came down to it, is there a reason you have to change your name right now? You could choose not to, to reinforce that a name is just a name, and that not everyone's name changes when they marry. He won't feel so left out then.

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Nadia - posted on 01/20/2014

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Thanks for the reply Jodi..i know that and think it's so unfair after 6years of neglect on his bio father's part and I know for a fact that if I start looking for him wherever he is and start the process He will start a huge court battle which will be so draining and unnecessary but the question is how do I handle this type of situation how do I explain this to my son? So confusing and scary at the same time

Jodi - posted on 01/20/2014

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I am pretty sure you would have to have his father's permission to change his name.

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