Tanya - posted on 04/27/2013 ( 47 moms have responded )
I am a divorced mother of 3 children, ages 5 (girl), 6 (boy), and 10 (girl). Since the divorce 4 years ago, I have dated approximately 7 men, 5 of whom have spent time with the children, to varying degrees. The most recent boyfriend spent the most time with them, as he basically lived at our home for about 4 months...up until December 2012. He frequently watched the kids for me, as I am a full time student, also have an emotional regulation disorder that makes it hard for me to cope sometimes. He also slept in the bed with them often, and saw us sleeping in the same bed every night. When the relationship ended, the kids asked about him a lot, but they seem to be OK with it now.
My question is pertaining to my new relationship, which started in February 2013. The new man is wonderful, and good to the kids, and we are planning to be married within a couple of months. My mom feels very strongly that the kids should not see us sleeping in the same bed, especially because of the proximity to the last relationship, and the fact that my 6 yr. old son is having serious problems at school. I feel that it is perfectly OK, especially since he is going to be in their life permanently. What do you think?