DNA test - birth certificate

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I am 5 months pregnant. I know who the father is but do not want anything to do with him. He has requested to take a DNA test because he doesn't believe the baby is his. I don't want to put him on the birth certificate. If the DNA test determines he is the father, do I have to put his name on the birth certificate?

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~♥Little Miss - posted on 07/27/2015

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It down right infuriates me. What upsets me about this particular post, is the cheating and the guy only wanting a DNA test cause his WIFE requested it (smart girl). Also, the guy in question doesn't want to be on the BC, which makes me think he wants nothing to do with this child. The whole situation is terrible, and this poor baby is gonna be in the middle of all this ridiculous drama. How about we don't cheat on the ones we love, or have unprotected sex, and be a man and own your mistakes.

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 07/27/2015

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I get it, Sarah! I'm tired of these girls thinking that they own their child! Of course, I'm speaking from the side of a bio dad completely alienated from his first child because of a selfish child such as this OP...

Sarah - posted on 07/27/2015

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I gotta say this issue is making me crazy! Ladies, simply because you carry a baby does not make you MORE of a parent than the man who helped you create the baby!
Technically, if you know for sure who the father is and you refuse to name him on the birth certificate, you are committing fraud. Why do women think they can prevent a father from seeing his child by not naming him the father? Post after post. I get there are exceptions (sperm donor, surrogacy) and if you don't know the dad....I get it! Mothers and fathers are equally obligated to financially provide for a child until age18 and both are equally entitled to parent.
Whew! I need to get that out......

Dove - posted on 07/27/2015

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Apparently you deleted your account cuz you couldn't handle the truth... Not your call to make. If the guy wants a DNA test he will get one and whether or not you put him on the birth certificate will not stop him from taking you to court and getting rights to HIS child.

Haven't read the other responses yet, but I can figure that's how it went....

~♥Little Miss - posted on 07/27/2015

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THats lovely.

Well, you slept with each other, cheated on his wife, and you got pregnant. Now you are both going to have a baby. Him not being on the BC does not change paternity.

Seriously, be smart about this. Do not make such a huge decision based on emotions. Seek legal help to guide you through this mess.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 07/27/2015

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If he is the father, and once paternity is established, he can legally waive rights to paternity. This means lawyers and court. This also means you can NEVER collect child support from him. It pretty much states he has no parental rights at ALL. I personally would never do this. You both made this child. The child deserves to know who his father is. This man needs to help support his child.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 07/27/2015

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You not putting him on the BC changes nothing about him being the father. All it does in the long run is make it difficult to establish paternity, make it harder to have him pay child support, and confuses your child later on in life. If you know 100% that he is the father, he should be on the BC. If you are uncertain due to multiple partners around the time of conception, then no one should be put under father until you have established paternity through DNA testing.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 07/27/2015

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It is a legal document, yes. He has every right to know if that child is his. This will create paternity for him, and will make your child eligible for child support. You may not like him, or want anything to do with this man, but he has rights.

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